Experience of DH going part time?

[over2021]

Does anyone have any positive stories of their DH working part time whilst you work FT?

I've just got a new job. Very good wage but long commute (1hr 15minutes) so DD (4YO) has a long day in breakfast club/school/after school club. I can't work part time but my hours aren't long- it's a 9-5 job with only very occasional late working but all in the office - no home or hybrid working.

DH can go part time at work- so DD would only need to go to childcare 3 days a week. He seems keen but I'm worried about the dynamic - all our money goes into one pot but I'm worried he'd feel emasculated I think I'm more worried than he is so just seeking positive family tales!

Not a problem. You’ll find that the only ones who judge are SAHMs whose opinion doesn’t matter.
DH gave up work and has taken early retirement when DS was 14. I was running my own business and school runs were making life very stressful. I was able to concentrate on being the bread winner and DH took on all the rest. It wasn’t for long as I’ve now sold the business but it did allow me to concentrate on the sale which took over 12mnths. I now work 2 days a week and DH is much more in tune with how much hidden work women do. We now do all the shopping together, usually followed by lunch out. Housework is a joint effort. He never stresses about things not being done. Life is so much easier.
DH has had some grief (he has always been a traditional man’s man) but he shrugs it off. I certainly don’t think any less of him.

I also think that is has been good for DS to see that women are not just for looking after men.

@me4real - wow. Unbelievable response.

I have plenty of friends where the man works less, is a stay at home dad, earns less. I earn considerably more than my DH so he often ends up doing more school drop offs/pick ups etc.

Just do what's right for you as a family. Hopefully then your kids will grow up knowing that a marriage is a team and it doesn't matter who does what, as long as everyone is happy and healthy. Unlike me4real...

I did it, and one of my adult DDs is in this situation.

It needs a man who is capable round the home and with the children, and who is not brainwashed with the traditional male role ideas.

It worked for me and works for my DD.

And I agree it is a good example for the children - rejecting stereotypical roles and a demonstration of the importance of co-operation.

I am shocked that some women think it’s ok to be sexist. Even if it was ok to be sexist towards men, having sexist assumptions that only women can do childcare and men need to be “providers” is very harmful towards women. If both partners are contributing equally (whether financially or with unpaid work) and both parties have agreed , that’s fine imo. I don’t see anything shameful about men being the lower earner.