What does a cockllodger look like to you

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Just that....
Are they always mean with money and expect to be kept?

Mine mine 6 years ago. At the time he was lodging with his 1st ex wife and her partner whilst waiting for his 2nd divorce to settle to save on renting his own place 🙄. He shuffled his way in to my house a few weeks after we met - so many red flags but I still stupidly married him 2 years ago. Needless to say I'm currently divorcing him and at 57 I'm done with men - I can't be trusted to not feel sorry for them!

They’re charming & lovebomb you, do lots of ‘romantic’ things… but, nothing that involves spending money. Once they’ve got their claws in emotionally, they slowly make it so the set-up is that you pay for and provide everything, and their contribution is their mere presence and act so ‘nice’ that the thought of confronting them when you finally twig they’re not contributing makes you feel awkward.

Practical red flags are not having their own place that they actually pay for (not just lodging with a friend or relative), forgetting their wallet, wanting dates to just be going round the woman’s house so they can be cooked for & not have to pay. Oh and having a psycho ex wife who takes all their money in CMS apparently.

My cocklodger had lost his job and was getting state benefits (not much maybe $800 a month) But he never contributed to food or household expenses, he was extremely social so instead of eating at home he would use his money to eat out/drink with friends. I guess he felt he wasn't a cocklodger because he didn't eat any of the meals at my house. But he was still living completely free - contributions to household expenses, etc - which he didn't understand.