hi
my partner binge drinks. not all the time, not every week but probably averaging over the last year once a month. we had some humdinger arguments as when they are so drunk they are argumentative and turn nasty. though have never been violent.
our children/friends and family have all seen my partner like this - some people think it's great as they can be life and soul of the party. but i hate it and when they are like that i have no respect or love for them.
he has been so drunk that they have weed in the bed (once), not manage to walk home with myself and our children as they fell over in a bush and we coudn't get them up, argue very loudly over nothing because they are drunk, fall asleep on top of me on a diagonal on the bed - I couldn't wake them to get him to move - so had to sleep downstairs, comatose on the kitchen floor etc etc.
they did dry jan and didn't touch a drop and then went out on a weekend this feb for 2 pints, whilst i cooked dinner and came back 8 hours later absolutely flat out drunk and collapsed in the kitchen drunk.
i have told them i am over it and am not doing this anymore - he left and is now back and has promised he'll do something about his inability to sometimes act so selfishly.
on a typical year i think the above behaviour happens maybe 5 times a year. last year it happened 10-12 times and this year 1 time so far.
could you live with this. apart from this he's great. kind, funny and loving. but the drunkeness is making me not love him.