He has an issue with me going out with my friend.

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We are in our forties.
She is married for years. When we go out she is exceptionally flirtatious, provocative towards men and comes onto men regularly. She has been with many and headed home with them on our nights out. She has no interest in our opinions whatsoever on this. Says it's her business and we don't know what hours on in her marriage.
She says her marriage is sexless and doesn't care for him but won't leave because of the kids. I think he is oblivious but when they areout together which is rare she is still flirty and disappears for ages from the group.
It is well known in our circles and village that this is her normal when socialising but my partner now has a problem with me socialising with her.
Thoughts?

I have enough integrity to not cheat on my husband even if I’m out with or friends with someone who cheats on theirs

@Shoxfordian

I have enough integrity to not cheat on my husband even if I’m out with or friends with someone who cheats on theirs

What if you're 8 drinks in and she starts telling you you're such a prude. And she always does that and you've heard it so much you start to wonder. And you're not on the best terms with your husband after an argument about you having a night out with her. And a part of you thinks 'fuck him for telling me what i can and can't do' And the handsome guy she is chatting to has a handsome pal? And he's looking deep into your eyes and you feel the breath catch in your throat and your heart skip a beat.

Sure, probably still not right? But you'd be lying if you said there wasn't a second, just second, where you were tempted.

And the fact is, it's probably wise to not put yourself in the path of temptation. With a devel on your shoulder like her.

Devil

Sounds like the start of a dodgy romance novel 😄

I don’t think the op said her friend called her a prude? Nobody would call me that knowing my past, trust me

I wouldn’t be friends with someone who called me that or tried to goad me into doing something but the op said this woman is a good friend

My husband also wouldn’t tell me who I can socialise with so we wouldn’t argue over it

I still would have enough self control to not go off with the nearest hot guy

Women are always on here complaining about the company their dh's keeps, drunken male friends who go to clubs and leer at women.

It's all pretty grim.

I can see your dh's point tbh. of course he shouldn't be telling you who you can and can't be friends with, but on this occasion I can see where he is coming from.

I'm not sure I'd be particularly happy with DP going out and being associated with a bloke who was had a reputation for being a complete player and openly treating their DW with such disrespect. I expect he is worried that you will
a) be tarred with the same brush
b) end up being left by her when she randomly goes home with some bloke
c) Other blokes may think you are similar, which could leave you in pretty uncertain situations.

I wouldn't be comfortable with my DH going on a night out with a friend who uses said night out to cheat on their partner.

As far as I'm concerned it's unfair and selfish for someone to make a friend complicit in their cheating,why should their friend go home with the knowledge that said person is currently in someone's bed on their conscience?;it's not their burden to carry.

What if your friends husband ever questions you about your friends whereabouts?;it puts you in a position where you'll have to make a snap decision to lie or not.

I wouldn't want either myself or DH in that position.