Help needed to leave abuse

[Blue4YOU]

So I’ve decided it’s high time for me to leave my husband. He has been diagnosed as a narcissist, so I’m not falsely attributing that to him.
He is really ramping up the threat of physical violence at the minute.
I’d walk but..
I have a severely disabled daughter (cannot walk/talk/eat etc).
And a dog.
But I need to go as soon as I can.
Do any of you know anywhere I could go for advice, please?

Anyone?
I’ve emailed Women‘s Aid

If you can’t get through to womens aid can you call the police and ask them what to do? They should be able to support you if he’s threatening violence.

Make sure you lock your phone and turn off email notifications in case anyone @ you on this thread too, as it’s the most dangerous time when he senses he’s losing control of you.

Once you’re out it will be hard as I’m sure he won’t make it easy for you, but it will be so worth it. You can do this for yourself and your dd

Please report to the Police today, who may be able to order a protection order.
A solicitor can help you to apply for an occupation order and non molestation order. Rights of Women is an organization who can also help you with this.
Keep trying Womens Aid too.
Report the abuse to your doctor, professionals who support you in the care of your daughter. Get the abuse on record.
Secretly start to go through all of you and your husband`s financial information, make a note of account numbers ,balances or even better make copies.

You got this

Get out asap

Woman's aid are amazing

Plus yoh will get lots of good advice on here too

Please keep posting xxxxxxx

I did it 4 years ago and so so happy since then xxxxx

Thank you both

Instead of leaving, could you make him leave? I reported my abuser to police and while he was in custody applied for an emergency non molestation order. He was served with this before release under investigation (for coercive control, made threats of physical violence too) and this prevented him from returning to our home. This might be less stressful on you and your daughter, but I think it also depends on whether you can afford to pay rent/mortgage on your own.

Yes @yummygummy

Get him out

He sounds awful

Why should you leave??!!!!

If he’s threatening violence I’d also go for the police option. You’re extra vulnerable because of your dd’s special needs. It would be better if the police could remove him rather than you having to leave.
If you call the police state his threats of violence and if there is also coercion make sure they know about that. If he is a risk to your child make sure that you state that too.
Do you have a social worker, health visitor or someone at your dd’s school you can talk to for additional support?

How are you op??

Police will remove him if he’s threatening you. Is it owned/rented? I don’t see why you should have to move. If you own, look into an occupation order-presumably you’re your dd’s main carer?