Need tips on how to keep my head in a toxic workplace

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Hi I was going to post this in work but feel like the tips I’m looking for are more relationship/personal skill.

I really desperately need some advice on how to keep my head together whilst working the last few weeks in a pretty toxic workplace. There has been bullying and just no support work wise, horrible workloads, extremely stressful.

I’m on my way out to a new role but I’m struggling to keep it together, it’s hard to say it all without being outing. I thought knowing a way out was there would make me feel better but I still feel sick in there every day, still being moaned at and gossiped about. Still being bullied by numerous colleagues. How do I disengage or how to keep going just this bit longer? Anyone else been through this?

I've not had this level of bother but what helped is getting some ear buds and listening to music

Find a new job and get out of there as soon as.

Oh I am in one of those workplaces. Got a new manager who micromanages and talks at me. Horrible woman. Thankfully I only have 27 days left of working there. Staff are incredibly nice though so will miss them but the new manager has no people skills.

I am ignoring her remarks and how she repeats herself at me and how she sounds so condescending. Been in my job three years and will never go back into this sector again.

I am glad you are leaving as it can really play with your emotions long after you leave a toxic situation. Just remember that whatever is being said behind your back is not in your control I don’t think, bullying in a workplace is hard to prove, but what you can control is how you react to it.

Do you have a new job to go to ? If so can you sign off sick if you're feeling that bad?

I had this and went off sick in the end. In hindsight, I wish I'd just said shove it up your behind. How long do you have left?

If you have a new job to go to sign off sick! I had this at my last job and expected to have to work four weeks notice, fortunately it turned out to be one weeks garden leave!

Congratulations on your new job! Yeah get a sick note and spend the time resting and preparing for the new role.

Fuck em. What are they going to do? Sack you?

Is it a new role in the same company? If so, it's just one foot in front of the other, set yourself targets for the day to keep you occupied and don't engage. Keep a calendar and cross off each day. Just remember that you're better than all of them.
Congratulations on your new job.

Earplugs and head down with work.

A few stock phrases if absolutely necessary.

I've been in this position, the key thing is to adopt the mantra "not my circus not my monkeys"
You are leaving and this is no longer your problem

I was bullied - whistle blew- and treated like I was the one with the problem

Then I applied and got a temp promotion and then since I have got a permanent one away from that team

I had to "let it go" and realise anger was a wasted emotion and just survive until I went

Congrats on new job
Been there, done that.

• take full lunch hour and go for a walk- preferably near trees and water. Try and get a walk in before and after work too to create distance between work day and personal time.
• engage in self care. Do 10‐15 mins yoga before bed, pay attention to nutrition and make food food choices.focus on you.
• try not to vent and ramble on about the job /the annoying thing that happened to your mum/DP etc. It doesn't help it just encourages a negative mindset and the habit of complaining.
• go easy on alcohol, it won't fix what you've got.
• music when you can. I like Spotify "music for concentration"
• Remember you are in control. This isn't just happening you are making a conscious choice to go in because it suits you.

-there is very little they can actually do.

• minimise engagement and keep it short.
• count down the days
• remember that in 5 years all this will be pointless noise and you won't care about these people

Well done on putting in place a route out. Going off sick is a good option if you can. But if you can't, here's a few things that helped me in a similar situation. I found it helpful to write how every negative situation made me feel. It got it out of my head.
When they gave me too much to do (let's say 10 tasks), I listed everything that I could do within my hours going at reasonable pace (let's say 4 out of those 10). I then emailed my boss to state that there isn't enough time available to complete all 10 and asked to sit down to prioritise. It felt so alien doing but in fairness it worked well.
If people are abusive over the phone, ask them to email. Chances are the email will be a lot more professional.

Some great advice here, OP. Reminds me of a very difficult job I had (because of the people and environment, not the work) and the last couple of months there were the most stressful of all. It WILL end. I thought that when I left I would need time to get over the drama and stress of it all, but I didn't. It just melted away - it didn't matter anymore and I didn't have to worry about those people and what they thought of me any more. It was just gone. I hope the time passes quickly for you!

I ended up just going and having a week mental break then into my new role. It's not even worth it if it's that bad!

Wow, I just want to say thank you for the tips and replies! 😊 feel so much better after reading them.