He is mindfucking, isn't he

[Undercity]

Ex and I have got on really well until I split up with him for various (mostly practical) reasons. Since then he has shown me a side that I find quite off-putting, but I initially put it down to hurt feelings etc.

Basically, he over-reacts in a dramatic way, gives no reason, says sorry a few hours later, again without reason and then expects everything to be fine again.

Today was another example. I was meant to see him at the weekend as a friend, but decided due to a number of incidents that he wasn't ready yet, so pulled out.

Out of the blue, today, I get a message saying "so you've met someone else, goodbye, am permanently blocking you".
My response was a simple "wtf" and half an hour later I get "am sorry, have overreacted, I love you and only want the best for you".

So I ask him what happened/ what is going on in his head etc. and mention that I am actually at home tidying. He ignores all of the former and starts teasing about the tidying. But I wouldn't let it go, asked him whether he was going to respond to my questions, only to get "you're so hard to apologise to. anyway, am sorry, hope you're ok".

I've not bothered responding. This is one in a line of similar situations - I'd say one every 1-2 weeks at the moment since we broke up 6 weeks ago.

I haven't known him like this in the past; he was always very sweet in person, if a bit insecure. But this now makes me believe more and more that this is either to get a reaction or to deliberately fuck with my mind. It's a shame because I hoped we could stay friends. Tell me this isn't right?

You can't go straight into friends. There has to be a decent break from each other first. It doesn't work OP. Keep him blocked.

@toooldforthisshite

I hate all this blocking shit. Seriously. When did we as a society become so callous and cold. It's horrible to block people, ok there are exceptions- harrassment and safety issues but many times it's just a matter of communication, clear and open communication. Blocking is just another throw away society issue. its horrible and childish.

Agree 100%

Lots of bitter women on here

Nope not bitter here. Very boundaried and very clear on what healthy communication looks like and what unhealthy communication looks like.
If you can’t play nicely with my boundaries, then I don’t need to communicate with you.

Unhealthy/ obsessive behaviour is on the increase. More women can cut it off in its tracks much earlier through blocking. Harassment escalates.

This is not an harassment issue though. It's a break up where one side is struggling to come to terms with it and hasn't been helped by the blurred lines from the op. There are kinder ways to deal with this. A lot of people are so quick these days to jump to the most extreme scenario.