I have a friend who to be honest, I just don't have anything in common with anymore. We were friends when we were kids, lost touch for nearly a decade then reconnected many years ago. It doesn't feel like my other friendships, it's a lot of effort and I find it exhausting and the more I think about it, I just think why am I bothering?!
She texts me every single day without fail, idle chitchat, it caused friction in the past as she got upset with me not replying, not opening messages etc. I explained to her I don't speak to anyone every day, it just isn't me. She got upset and said she will just need to manage her expectations of me. It was all quite ridiculous to be honest, she didn't start texting any less but stopped getting angry at me when I didn't reply.
I have her muted and archived on WhatsApp, so she goes straight into that section and I can just deal with it when I choose to - it's just the fact I feel the need to do this that makes me think this is all just too weird.
I honestly don't think she really knows me anymore, she constantly chats to me about and sends me links to things I'm just really not interested in at all. She will tag me in things that I don't care about at all. She will do gushy posts on birthday and yesterday for 'Galentines' with collages of photos and says things like 'my best friend for 25 years' which is completely untrue we've known each other for 20 years and we didn't speak for nearly 10 of them.
When we meet up it's awkward, there's lots of awkward silences, it's not comfortable like it is when I hang out with actual good friends. It's just a weird vibe but then I'll get home and there will be a post about what an amazing day we had and some photos and all I can think is but we look so uncomfortable?
I don't really know why it's still a thing, I send a few texts idly responding to her chatter. I don't return the weird social media best friends thing. She calls herself auntie to my kids - she's only them twice and the oldest is 3 years old. She is single with no kids if it's relevant.
She's text me again this morning and I read it and actually out loud just said I don't fucking care. So, clearly enough is enough. I just feel like I'm a mother of two and I don't want drama, how do you even stop a situation like this? It's all so fake, I have some really great genuine friends and we don't chat everyday but when we see each other we laugh and chat and there's no awkward silences. I can't be bothered to keep investing even minimal energy into something that just isn't real?
If you've stuck with me this far thanks, I stress over this a lot and it really just feels like such an odd situation and I don't know what to do?!