Would you stay?

[Whoknows11]

In short been with my boyfriend just over a year but he doesn't love me, can't tell me and doesn't know if and when he will.

Would you stay?

Today has been particularly difficult seeing love everywhere but I don't have it towards me from my boyfriend.

Feeling quite low.

No. Time to throw this one back in the pond. You deserve to be loved, make yourself free so you can find a partner who will love you. Or be single, it's less miserable than being with someone who doesn't love you.

Read this:

www.goodreads.com/book/show/239509.Women_Who_Love_Too_Much

Hard no from me.

By saying ''he doesn't love me, can't tell me and doesn't know if and when he will'' I'm assuming you've discussed this ?

If the answer is ''yes, we have'', then DUMP IMMEDIATELY FFS !!

He's told you that he's NOT a nice person at ALL !!

Why would anyone stay to get further insulted and hurt ?

He says it's just words but they're words he can't say. I need to hear them otherwise I'm thinking he doesn't and that makes me insecure and unsure about myself.

It's difficult to walk away as things with us are great 😞

That’s totally different to not loving you. You should have said that at the start.

Some guys have hang ups about saying the words. It can be a fear of commitment stemming from previous dysfunctional relationships or parents relationship where they said they loved each other and regularly battered each other and fought bitterly despite saying the words, or anything.

Or he could be telling the truth.

You have to work out which it is. If it’s the former, LTB. If it’s the latter I wouldn’t leave him but it would bother me so if need to get to the bottom of it. Did he ever tell a gf he loved them and she dumped him or something?

Does his actions towards you show he cares? Does he treat you well, prioritise your feelings and wishes. Be thoughtful and considerate. Be generous with his free time and his money? Plan for your future together? Etc. Why are things so great just now, in what way? What aspects of your relationship bother you?

You’re thinking he doesn’t love you, because he doesn’t. He’s not even pretending to keep you quiet. He’s showing you exactly who he is.

@Whoknows11 pull off the bandaid now. Things are not ‘great’ between you, as he is knows he’s hurting you and is not letting you go, that’s wrong.

When you’re truly meant to be with someone it’s just not this hard, I promise.

He doesn’t love you. You are the one he’s shagging while he waits to meet the love of his life. Don’t be used.

Even if he does say them now you won't believe him - because he's told you they're 'just words'

If they’re just words why can’t he say them? He is deliberately withholding love from you and we all need love. You need love. He refuses to give you that or give you the real security your heart needs. That’s not a great guy giving you a great relationship. That is a fundamental, painful withholding of what the entire relationship should turn around.

OP I think you need to move on because this will only get worse as time goes on.