I am writing to ask if anybody else has a similar frustration. Our 25 yr old dd is still living at home with us in London as she didn't finish her degree and she has gone back to the drawing board to start again. She didn't finish her degree first time round because of mental health issues and anxiety and she worked for a few years before deciding that she did want to be better qualified. She finds herself now in a position where most of her friends from university are well employed in London and many are settled with boyfriends and good salaries which often makes her feel that she is way behind everybody else in life. She sometimes feels that because she is living at home and back in education she is living a bit like a teenager.
This is where my frustration comes in. Although she has decided to study again, she is living a bit like a teenager. She has a busy weekend of socialising so today she said she will have a duvet day. I feel because she had to leave university the first time due to mental health issues, I bend over backwards to accommodate her. Sometimes, I am not sure if she has me over a barrel because she has taken an overdose a few times during her student years and therefore I am always jumping in to solve any problems if she has them as I am so scared of her doing anything like that again. I feel because of this I am enabling her ie when she was late for a tutorial last week I actually drove her there to make sure she got there on time. Her time management is appalling and she often ends up taking an Uber so that she gets somewhere on time when she could have just got out of bed earlier and been more organised. It frustrates me so much to see her make these very basic mistakes and yet at the same time I don't know whether to blame it on mental health or just her not taking more responsibility. Does anybody have a similar situation? I find it so frustrating to see her not being more organised and responsible and then I have to spend hours cheering her up when she gets down about how all her friends have much more grown up, successful lives. etc etc. Can anybody relate to this?