Do you moan about your partner to friends/or do friends moan to you......

[breeze]

I have 2 good friends who seem to moan about their DP/DH all the time. They have nothing kind to say about them at all. they do nothing round the house, help with kids etc etc. I have asked more than once why they are with them, and usually get my head bitten off and then a few things that they do actaully do well.

They both seem very unhappy in life in general and I hate seeing them down, but don't know what else I can do.

I just wandered if others have friends like that, or in fact if you moan to your friends.

I am in a good marriage, supportive and loving dh and sometimes when they say does your dh do that, and it seems as though I am rubbing their nose in it by saying no actually he doesn't, and seems I have to apologise for not be miserable in my relationship, as I always believe that if you are not happy, then things need to change.

My sil is a serial moaner. My sister and I have come to the conclusion that it's just her personality as her life is reasonably ok and she isn't suffering from depression.

Hi Breeze..

I do have a friend who I have moaned to in the past about many problems I had with dh and she never did much moaning, the opposite really...but she didn't talk much about her relationship with him so much....my other friend hardly talks about her relatiobship at all..

there's nothing wrong with having a moan but if 2 friends are unalike and one moans and the other one doesn't then maybe that's why you find it uncomfortable...have you discussed this with them at all//

I have one or two friends that moan a lot about their DHs. I don't have one to moan about but kept moaning to a minimum when I did (I think). I am sympathetic for a while but sometimes like you, Breeze, I think if it's that bad do something about it but stop moaning! I think some people just love moaning though!

Thanks.

It does depend on what mood I am in, sometimes I can listen away and other times when I am tired or down myself it does drive me nuts.

I mean my Dh does drive me nuts now and again, and I might mention something, but with them is a weekly thing. I do agree with you though that some people just like moaning.