My husband and I live on mainland Europe in a German speaking country. He has never learned the language and doesn’t earn much of an income. I am the main breadwinner but feel resentful that he hasn’t learned German and doesn’t want to perform his trade anymore. He is a builder and sick of it. But underneath all of that I feel underloved and under appreciated. He is not affectionate and a real loner. (He is also dyslexic and has severe social anxiety, largely untreated). He is almost incapable of having emotionally difficult conversations. We don’t click on an emotional level anymore, perhaps ever. I want to split up but I can’t see how he can support himself here. I can manage our current mortgage and kids without him, but we can’t afford two households unless he earns way more. One option is he goes back home, which he says he would hate and we have two teens here so I am not keen on that idea. He has been loyal and supportive of me but I fear I just want a different kind of partner. I feel like a bad person and that I would be screwing him over but at the same time he has had ample time and support from me to retrain or learn German and he hasn’t. I feel very lonely.