Two of my sibling Cousins and I are extremely close in age and spent a lot of time together in our younger years. As we grew up, I probably heard more from my male one than my female one.
Moving forward, my male cousin and his parents have had a huge falling out and they don't get to see their grandchildren as a consequence. He blames his sister (quite possible) and they blame his wife (also quite possible). I live in a different country to them these days, so communicate with everyone either through social media, messaging or emails although not very frequently with female cousin (used to, but then she would say don't tell my parents this and that, and lastly not to bother her parents which to me is a bit off).
Something that I agree with my Uncle is we cannot be sure who is accessing my male Cousin's email accounts and replying on them. He works away from home for long periods of time, and we don't know his schedule. Recently I let ''him'' know of his parents' hospitalization and that of another family member. No one else had done so, and I thought it would be a good opportunity for him to re-connect at least with his Mum. My message/s were always appreciated although at one point, whoever was replying on messenger, wasn't reading a relevant email that had been sent earlier.
My Cousin didn't go and see/contact his parents, nor contacted the other family member. I would have thought he could have sent a quick message if he was away with work, but nothing.
On the flip side, Cousin remarked that no one (I guess this includes me) told him about a family wedding recently until he found out elsewhere.. so I feel like he does want to know family goings-on.
If it was you, would you still keep male cousin (or whoever is accessing his accounts) up to date or let them get on with it?
Would you show his family photos of their grandchildren that were sent?