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First Valentines Together ? Anyone else …

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HaggisBurger · 13/02/2022 16:58

Yeah I know Valentines Day is a load of old commercial nonsense etc etc. But after a 19 year non-romantic and non-sexual relationship ended and I’ve been dating a slightly younger man for 8 months I’m a bit excited for tomorrow 😀. I know, I know I’m in my 40s and way too old to be into this crap ….

He’s got a bottle of champagne in the fridge and is cooking us dinner tomorrow and I’m having a rare mid week sleepover (because kids - but no school run so yay). The weird thing is though - we haven’t said I love you. So it was really hard finding a card that doesn’t refer to love per se. I’ve sent him the card on Friday with don’t open till 14th on it. And I’ve got some new lingerie ..,

Love to hear some other stories of planned V Days with new lovers 🥰

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HaggisBurger · 13/02/2022 17:00

I should clarify that obvs my ltr wasn’t always non sexual - it produced 4 kids 😂. Just for the last 8 years ….

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Dazedandconfused10 · 13/02/2022 19:44

I've got covid, so my first valentines with new man will be spent alone, quarantining. Although we didn't have any plans for the day, but this weekend was scrapped.

SunflowerTed · 13/02/2022 20:03

Have a fabulous romantic first Valentines xxxx

Fidgety31 · 13/02/2022 20:08

It my first one with new guy of two months but I’m away with my kids for half term so nothing planned with him !

CountryCatLady · 13/02/2022 20:43

First with my BF. Been together 3months. I cooked a lovely meal last night and we had a few drinks. Going to do some nice seafood for tomorrow night. Considering the lingerie as well. Although trying to keep lingerie for random nights rather than special occasions, idk. Don't know if he will get me anything. First V day with a bf since First year of uni, and that was not a good time. I'm not really fussed about it, but it has been a good excuse to cook some things a bit different.

totallyoutnumbered · 13/02/2022 21:26

My first with mine too. Every say feels like Valentines still 🤢🥰. Seriously, I've never been one to celebrate and neither has he. We've got our 4 kids together for a sleepover and movie night tomorrow 😂

PotatoGoblins · 13/02/2022 21:31

First for me to.
My marriage ended last year, and I’ve been seeing my new man for a little while. He’s 15 years older than me, and has really surprised me with his attentiveness and doing nice things for me at random - not something I was remotely accustomed to during my marriage Confused
We’ve not got anything planned. He usually has a commitment with his youngest DS on Monday nights, and I’ll have my 3 DCs at home. We did just spend the weekend together around my work shifts though which was really nice 🥰

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HaggisBurger · 13/02/2022 21:34

@Dazedandconfused10

I've got covid, so my first valentines with new man will be spent alone, quarantining. Although we didn't have any plans for the day, but this weekend was scrapped.
Aww I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe you can designate the next night you’re together as Valentines!? Way less crowded in the restaurants 😀

We did that for Christmas - just designated the weekend before and had the most lovely time 😀

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HaggisBurger · 13/02/2022 21:36

Loving all these stories of celebrating before the day and tomorrow.

I know it’s corny but I think we are both just glad to have someone to share it with.

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AlwaysColdTea · 14/02/2022 07:13

My boyfriend of 3 months is coming over this evening but it was a last minute decision and it only occurred to me on waking this morning that it is valentine's day.

I don't bother with it. Never have. He asked last weekend how I feel about it so he would have done something if I'd wanted to, I think, but I just said it wasn't something I do.

Sideorderofchips · 14/02/2022 07:30

First time in years I've got flowers (first valentine with new partner)!

Can't see him today though as it's a plague house but loving the flowers

CountryCatLady · 14/02/2022 07:35

After me saying yesterday that I wasn't sure he got me anything, the boy did good. He got called in to work this morning, but left a present on my bed. Other than the car, nothing in it is traditionally romantic/valentines related. But stuff I would enjoy, which is way more important I think. Now I better get my thinking cap on and come up with a card and actual gift for him, instead of just dinner...(rushes off to the shops...)

CountryCatLady · 14/02/2022 07:35

That should say Card. Not car 🤣🤣🤣🤣

PyjamasOClock · 15/02/2022 03:13

Yes, us - 6 months in and really happy. He bought me chocolates that I really like and some quite Hmm lingerie. He's not subtle. I've booked us a night away with DBB in a nice hotel. I cooked what sounded like a lovely meal on Sunday night, in theory, and was a complete disaster!! He was kind enough to eat more than I managed. I'm a pretty good cook but a new recipe just didn't work out with timings.

tuesdayisthebestday · 15/02/2022 12:02

8 months in. A couple of weeks ago I did drop into convo that I wasn't particularly keen on the big fuss event etc but liked a card. He isn't fussed either, but we both managed cards and takeaway and had a lovely evening together as we always do.

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HaggisBurger · 15/02/2022 17:26

@tuesdayisthebestday

8 months in. A couple of weeks ago I did drop into convo that I wasn't particularly keen on the big fuss event etc but liked a card. He isn't fussed either, but we both managed cards and takeaway and had a lovely evening together as we always do.
Ah that’s nice!! Hope everyone whose commented so far has a good night 😀
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HaggisBurger · 15/02/2022 17:34

Having started the thread I guess on balance I feel a little disappointed but I’m probably being unreasonable … 🤷🏻‍♀️😉

So, I drove to his which is about an hours drive into the countryside. I was wearing a nice dress, heels and new underwear. He has made an effort and was in a lovely shirt and smelled lovely. He’d set the table lit candles and had champagne in the fridge. We had a lovely night - and he had the Valentines card I’d sent in the post up on the mantelpiece. He then referenced it and said oooh I got a Valentines but I don’t know who it’s from. But he hadn’t bought me a card. Thought maybe he’d posted one and it would be here when I got home. No flowers or anything.

Basically I sound like I’m 12 don’t I? I wanted a card 😢😂

In fairness my ex got me a card every bloody year but never cooked me a meal etc.

Do I say to him about the card. That going forward V cards do mean something to me - as silly as that seems. There are some really nice, cool cards out there. I’m not talking about the big naff ones 😂

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tuesdayisthebestday · 15/02/2022 17:44

Tbh I'd wait until next year. Then on the approach up to it say how much you'd appreciate one. If you bring it up this year it risks looking a tad ungrateful!

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HaggisBurger · 15/02/2022 17:47

@tuesdayisthebestday that’s a very good idea! Tbh it’s only relevant if we’re still together then …😂

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HaggisBurger · 15/02/2022 17:49

@Sideorderofchips

First time in years I've got flowers (first valentine with new partner)!

Can't see him today though as it's a plague house but loving the flowers

Hope you get to see each other soon 😀. Enjoy those flowers too.
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