Being told I overreact

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I'm sat here crying because any concern or opinion of mine is dismissed. I try to explain what my concerns are but dp doesn't listen and first response after I say my part from him is that I overreact. Eg yesterday out for lunch with our two little kids, go to car park and he says this is where I used to park when I would go for lunch for lunch with a girl (when he was single) I say well now you get the priority kids car space. Goes on about how his life has changed. Then says he would have a lunch and a fuck after. So after lunch he asked me what I thought of lunch and I said okay but I didn't think he would take a girl there he would want to fuck in the afternoon. He would take her somewhere nicer. His response, you're still going on about it. Then today I say we need to have serious conversation and instead I'm told I overreact. Feel so crap. Ps I have a ex husband with child and this is my second partner now w two little kids

Ugh you’re not overreacting to not want to know he took a former date there and had sex with her afterwards, he’s bloody weird bringing that up.

How would he react if you’d said the same about another man? That will tell you a lot

You know he set you up right?
He innapropriately brought her up and then waited. Waited for you to call him on it - so that he could tell you you were overreacting.

He is emotionally abusive.
He is trying to make you think you are crazy so that you will stop questioning his shitty behaviour. And, just to drive you crazy.

He is essentially, a scumball. And the sooner you can get yourself away from him the better.

Ps: if you EVER find yourself thinking 'if only I could just find the right words to make him understand why his (obviously) hurtful behaviour is hurtful' then you are in an abusive relationship.

Get off the merry go round. He KnOWS his behaviour is hurtful. He just doesn't want you to know he knows. So that he can keep making out you are the one with issues.

He gets it. He understands. Ge doesn't actually think you are overreacting. It's a con. A trap.

OP, he's bloody vile! And I agree it's a set up by him.
Who the hell says that to their wife and expect them to be ok with it?! And I assume the children were in the car as well as you stated you'd all gone for lunch?
He's an abusive arsehole! So sorry you're dealing with this.

Next time you taking a walk in the park - stop by a random tree and say " wow this tree was where I had my one and only orgasm "

Happy days

Now how does he like it ?

First I’d have pulled him up for using that language in front of children. Unacceptable.
Then I’d have told him to go to the playground and play like the 10 year old he is.
Does he often behave in this nasty manner?

I know he's a dick. And yes, after lunch I responded by saying you want to hear about when guys wanted to fuck me the nice restaurants, nice spots, nice hotels, 5 stars places. It's the dismissal that I hate, being told I'm overreacting. It's the lack of care and self righteousness.