We are under an enormous amount of stress and have been for years. DH is the kind of person who everyone thinks is nice and easy going, but behind closed doors it's a different story.
I feel that he's either ignoring me, talking over me, being sarcastic or shouting and swearing. I literally never get a normal response from him.
So this morning I asked him who was packing the dishwasher, me or him? He tends to unpack it and pack it again if I do it because apparently I don't do it properly, so I thought I'd ask. He said he would do it. Anyway I completely forgot (4 hours sleep so really tired) and I accidentally asked him again. Not nagging, just asking, as I don't mind doing it if he doesn't want to. He shouted at me "I SAID I'll do it." But he was so rude and aggressive when he said it.
A short while later, he started talking about trying to get a new job. He said he couldn't remember the name of the agency a certain person worked at. There was then a few seconds' pause, so I said, "perhaps we could try Linkedin?" He went mental. He shouted at me "I was trying to talk!!!" like I'd interrupted him. When I said I thought he'd finished, he said, "I literally just paused for breath." I only suggested we could try Linkedin. That's all I said.
I just don't know what to do. It's nearly always like this. He admits he doesn't speak to anyone else like this, only me. So he is aware of it. I tell him I feel like a punchbag, which I do. I am so, so unhappy. But I don't know if this is normal and I'm overreacting.