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Dodged a bullet?

12 replies

Desolate2nite · 12/02/2022 21:58

I haven't dated for quite a while, then this last week reconnected with a guy I knew 30 years ago on Facebook. Chatted for a few days then he asked to meet up, I said OK I'm free next week, we can meet for coffee or drink. He throws a wobbly because I am not willing to go over to his house and spend the evening there. Then says I've hurt his feelings because I obviously don't trust him and that it now seems a lot of hassle to him. Is this normal and am I overreacting to think that its not. I'm so out of practice with all this dating stuff 😩

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PaddleBoardingMomma · 12/02/2022 22:07

Yeeeeah... no you definitely dodged a bullet. You absolutely don't need a silly demanding man child who wants to call the shots and then puts on emotional pressure when you don't do as he says. Onwards and upwards op!

SunflowerTed · 12/02/2022 22:24

Kick the petulant prick into touch

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Desolate2nite · 12/02/2022 22:41

I won't be bothering with him, too much like hard work lol

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Rno3gfr · 12/02/2022 22:41

Run.

ImprobablePuffin · 12/02/2022 22:42

God if he's like that before a first date imagine what he'd be like once he got comfortable.

NannyKrampus · 12/02/2022 22:43

Nah, he sounds like a manipulative prick! He wanted an easy booty call and not even invest time and effort.

Aquamarine1029 · 12/02/2022 22:43

Of course you've dodged a bullet. I'm surprised you even need to ask. He's a fucking creep.

Palmfrond · 12/02/2022 23:25

Go to his house in the evening as a first date? Yeesh!

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Desolate2nite · 13/02/2022 06:57

Thanks for the comments. He is deleted

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Mermaidwaves · 13/02/2022 07:50

He wanted sex without having to go to the effort of taking you on a date first which seems to be an increasing thing with men I've found. I had lots of men offering to cook or get a pizza at theirs as a first date. Apart from the safety risk it's a cheap shag with no effort. Plus his emotional manipulation and sulking? You're well rid!

HollowTalk · 13/02/2022 08:00

What a lazy arse this man is! He couldn't even be bothered leaving his house! If only he could get sex via Deliveroo.

Marineboy67 · 13/02/2022 09:28

I'd say you definitely dodged a bullet. I did OLD for nearly 2 years o & off but always made any potential dates aware that we should always practice 'safe dating'. Going to a bloke house on a first date you don't really know is certainly not. He could have developed in to any sort of weirdo.

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