Male friend telling dates about me. Weird?

[Musinglife11]

So my close male friend is single, so am I. We dated a few years back and ended well. We became close friends.

Both dated others and no issues. I have growing suspicions that he started to flirt with me a while back. I wasn’t too sure how I felt so acted as normal.

I then developed feelings as he started dating again. Not said anything and think it’s more losing our single life bond. He was telling about his first date last night. And then said this:

I told her about you and said I have a close female friend. She is a really good mate and if you have issues with that then we can’t go on another date. I am not going to dump her for a relationship.

I told him is was weird to say that. He said no as you are a good friend and I want any potential date to know I have a female best friend. Said he would never date anyone who had issues with us being friends.

Is this odd to admit he talked about me on a first date? I am definitely being put in the friends box!

He's setting a bit of an intense weird tone that isn't really necessary

This.

And so off putting on a first date where the other person has given no indication they'd have an issue with it.

It's like a variation of the aggressively written "my kids come first, so if you can't deal with that don't bother. End of." profile bios I remember seeing on Tinder. As if there's a presumption people would expect it be prioritised over someone's own children.

@LucieLemon my feelings only became this way when I found out his was dating. Need to process whether I have feelings or losing my only single friend.

I agree it adds fuel to the fire. Platonic I thought and need to figure it out before I talk to him.

He was cagy about telling me he was dating. Ignoring my questions. Then hit me with the you are my friend and you will be in my life. If a date can’t accept that they can’t be in my life.