Pregnant with second DS and not sure I'm happy in relationship?!

[SNWAWI]

Hi, never posted in here before and after some advice....I'm currently 6 months pregnant with second DS and mum already to 17 month old DS, been with my husband for about 6 years. This last year has been very difficult, I know the first year or so of being a parent is always difficult but it has made me look at my husband in a different light. He ALWAYS seems to be grumpy and a very negative person and very often takes himself off to bed in a mood whilst I'm left to deal with everything else. He won't talk about it and usually just wakes up the next day trying to go back to normal. Although he is very helpful around the house I feel like I have no emotional support and would always turn to my friends or family first for help before him. I'm just not sure it is normal to be miserable so much of the time?! Whenever he goes off in a grump it just makes me feel terrible about everything!

Have you tried to talk to him about it?

He ALWAYS seems to be grumpy and a very negative person and very often takes himself off to bed in a mood whilst I'm left to deal with everything else. He won't talk about it and usually just wakes up the next day trying to go back to normal. Although he is very helpful around the house I feel like I have no emotional support and would always turn to my friends or family first for help before him.

There should be a permanent thread on here on sulky, grumpy men.

Has he pretty much always been like this, only now he's got worse?

I think it's really sad that you can't turn to your partner for emotional support. That's one of the major perks of having a bloody intimate partner.

whilst I'm left to deal with everything else

Well yes that's the point of it, and it seems to be working.

Did he want to have children? Some people find it completely overwhelming and the whole set-up makes them miserable. Sadly the woman often finds this out after having kids, not before.

When he takes himself he might be doing this for a few reasons -

• He knows what he's like and it's trying to cope in the only way he knows how
• He's doing it deliberately so he can leave you on your own
• He's doing it a performance. People often do this to spread their negativity onto others, to lay claim to most of the suffering as in 'I AM SUFFERING THE MOST HERE', and they do it to get you to fawn over them and to have strop

@Fairycake2

Have you tried to talk to him about it?

She's tried.

He won't talk about it and usually just wakes up the next day trying to go back to normal. Although he is very helpful around the house I feel like I have no emotional support and would always turn to my friends or family first for help before him.