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Am I thick or is he a tosser?

46 replies

Mydogdave · 10/02/2022 23:57

Hi readers if I get any 😄. I’ve been with my partner for 10 years now, 2 kids 13 and 3.

I’m currently 10 weeks pregnant and bell partner has always been a bit of a bell but lately he’s being a total massive bell with bells on,he’s very secretive and so so nasty.

I’m not into tech at all I’m technically challenged as they say here’s the thick part not known in shared with you on my iPhone keeps popping up on his bell messages sent to me he said it’s coming from me I’ve tried Googling but none the wiser am I thick or is he being a fibbing bell???

OP posts:
GreyCarpet · 11/02/2022 07:38

I know some posters get snarky when a poster is pulled up on their grammar and punctuation bit this sort of thread is the reason why. Without it, posts often make no sense. If even the 'Shared with You' had been capitalised or in quotes, it would have been less confusing even if posters still had no idea what it was and were unable to help.

FruminariaBandersnatcheosum · 11/02/2022 07:42

Scooby anyone?

Mollysocks · 11/02/2022 07:54

@GreyCarpet

I know some posters get snarky when a poster is pulled up on their grammar and punctuation bit this sort of thread is the reason why. Without it, posts often make no sense. If even the 'Shared with You' had been capitalised or in quotes, it would have been less confusing even if posters still had no idea what it was and were unable to help.
Definitely some commas needed.
KatherineJaneway · 11/02/2022 08:14

@FruminariaBandersnatcheosum

Scooby anyone?
I don't have a Doo.
pog100 · 11/02/2022 08:18

I don't have an iPhone but a bit of googling suggests that the latest couple of changes to iOS have introduced sharing of messages, Safari etc between people. Both people have to have sharing on, which is the default. As @BobHadBitchTits suggests you may have switched this off, so that when he shares with you, you get the message you mention. So he is probably right.
As an aside when did "bell" become used in the way you are? Is it niche or an I just betraying my age?

Lickinglemonsinloughborough · 11/02/2022 08:37

Maybe she thought bell end would be filtered.

Sounds like the issues are him being sneaky lately and this iPhone issue has pushed you into posting. In what ways is he being sneaky op?

Random65 · 11/02/2022 08:45

First one, definitely.
Second one, maybe, post too incomprehensible to decide.

Pinkbonbon · 11/02/2022 08:50

No idea what you mean.

Buy if your partner is nasty, stop having babies with him and leave.

TyrannosaurusRegina · 11/02/2022 09:02

Are you drunk, OP?

stuntbubbles · 11/02/2022 09:33

I’m not into tech at all I’m technically challenged as they say here’s the thick part not known in shared with you on my iPhone keeps popping up on his bell messages sent to me he said it’s coming from me I’ve tried Googling but none the wiser am I thick or is he being a fibbing bell???
Trying to parse this so we can understand the issue.

  1. You’re not tech-savvy.
  2. When he sends you a text on your iPhone, underneath the text it says “not known in shared with you”.
  3. He says this is your phone’s issue, not his.
  4. Google isn’t helping.
  5. He’s being a cunt to you.

Is that right?

Cas112 · 11/02/2022 09:47

OP are you OK? Your making absolutely no sense haha

DinasCopUniform · 11/02/2022 10:01

@stuntbubbles

I’m not into tech at all I’m technically challenged as they say here’s the thick part not known in shared with you on my iPhone keeps popping up on his bell messages sent to me he said it’s coming from me I’ve tried Googling but none the wiser am I thick or is he being a fibbing bell??? Trying to parse this so we can understand the issue.
  1. You’re not tech-savvy.
  2. When he sends you a text on your iPhone, underneath the text it says “not known in shared with you”.
  3. He says this is your phone’s issue, not his.
  4. Google isn’t helping.
  5. He’s being a cunt to you.

Is that right?

I would say this is probably exactly right.
diddl · 11/02/2022 10:02

Well I got that the oldest child isn't his, got that bell was short for bellend, but know nothing at all about iphones so can't help with that!

ValerieCupcake · 11/02/2022 10:06

@Mydogdave

Yes banana you assumed correctly. Obviously nobody knows what I’m on about it literally says not known in shared with you underneath his messages that he sends to me I’ve never had it before and I’ve had iPhones for years
Shared with you? Is this a Google drive group?
lavender2022 · 11/02/2022 10:06

I'm beginning to think this is just someone trolling.

BlaBlaFishcakes · 11/02/2022 10:19

Years ago, I set up my son's iphone on my iTunes account. For some reason, after that all of his images were also sent to my phone. I managed to stop this, it was something in the settings which saved all his images to my cloud thingy, and then when I connected my iphone to iTunes, the images were copied to my phone.
I'm sure things have moved on since the dark ages of my iphone ownership, but if your partner has access to your phone, could he have connected them somehow, so anything sent o/on your phone was also sent to his?

mugoftea456 · 11/02/2022 11:20

I am really trying here, I have no idea what the question is.

I am assuming that English is your second language.

I suggest rewriting your post, and we may be able to help.

corlan · 11/02/2022 11:26

Forget about the bells, it's his ding-a-ling you need to be worried about.

TheFoundation · 11/02/2022 16:38

Am I thick or is he a tosser

I think if this is the sort of question your relationship inspires in you, you'd be better off just leaving. It's not how respectful people speak about each other.

Sweetlikejollof · 11/02/2022 16:49

@Mydogdave

Yes banana you assumed correctly. Obviously nobody knows what I’m on about it literally says not known in shared with you underneath his messages that he sends to me I’ve never had it before and I’ve had iPhones for years
I’m very sorry, but this post is nonsense.

Seriously, think about what you want to communicate to us. Write it down, and then proof read it. Make sure it’s intelligible and gets across what you’re trying to say. Then post it.

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