Just bought a house and he’s turned abusive - help

[Lovelysparkle23]

Hello all

I have been married for a few years now and sometimes my husband can get angry and lose his temper , however this time he hit me. We have just purchased a house together, it was only last week and I want to get out. It was a joint mortgage, can I do anything?

Yes you can call the police for a start.

You can and need to leave op. The house can be sold and monies split. Do you have family to stay with?

And what @alwaysmovingforwards said

What did you do when he hit you OP? What will you do next time because there will be a next time

Yes call the police, ask him to leave and go to a lawyer

Speak to a lawyer but don’t tell him.
Speak to Women’s Aid
The house can be sold
Do you have children ?

It's the first time he's hit you, but it won't be the last.

Report it to the police and phone Womens Aid.

Tell your family and his family too, because abuse thrives on secrecy, so don't keep it a secret !

Move back home or with friends meantime.

Don't worry about the house. It can be sold. Just keep yourself safe and away from him.

Call the police ASAP.

And see a solicitor.
The house can be sold.

There are several things you can do.
Call the police.
Have him arrested on suspicion of assault by beating.
Seek an occupation and non molestation order excluding him from the property.
Assemble all single and joint financial information on salaries, savings, pensions and other financial assets plus debts
Start divorce proceedings
If you don’t want or can’t afford to stay in the house put it on the market
Seek further advice from women’s aid and a solicitor taking legal aid family cases (you might qualify for legal aid depending on your income).

Call the police

The house can be sorted. Your safety is your main priority

Please let us know you're safe.

Just to be clear, it sounds like he's not 'just turned abusive', but has been abusive for some time, and has now turned violent.

Get away from him. Lots of advice here, and I can't offer anything else, other than that the anger you have seen is highly likely to have been abusive on many occasions, and the definition of abuse isn't just 'violence'.

There is only one answer to that question. You get away from him. He is abusive. He will get worse, not better. There is always a way out.

Don't stay with an abuser. Don't stay with someone who would hurt you (what would you do if a stranger hit you in the street? Why should you put up with your husband doing it? The person who's meant to love you most in the world?). Don't stay with someone who doesn't care for your wellbeing.

A relationship should be a happy place. The safest place. Your refuge. Your shelter. Where you get support and love and reassurance. Someone who respects you and listens to you and wants you to be happy, above all else.

Why would you stick around for anything less than that? You'd be much happier single.