Dating - time to define the relationship

[northernlady2904]

I've been dating a guy who since October. We see each other usually atleast once s a week. Usually meals, nights in, he stays at mine or vice Versa.

Both have children so seeing each other more is difficult.

We've both said we're not seeing other people but haven't defined the relationship further.

Do you think it's to soon to ask if we're going to remain as we are or if he wants to move forward? And how would you say it?

What would the next ‘definition’ to you look like? What is it you’re thinking? You’ve already confirmed you’re not seeing other people, so what would be next for you?

I see what you mean, it is a relationship but you want to know how serious, when he speaks of you what does he call you?
If he refers you as someone I'm seeing, run a mile if it's girlfriend or partner then he sees you as that. I'm hoping he has told his friends and family about you?

Has the subject of marriage, more children come up? what are his views and are they the same as yours.

I think you have to talk more about what you would like in future to find out if he's enthusiastic about it, better to find out now than waste years staying the same if your not happy with that.

You are in a relationship and yes you should define what that means to you because sometimes the other person's meaning is different and you need to be on the same page. But what do you mean 'move forward' exactly?

It's not too soon if you feel it's what you want to do. If he's the right person for you, he'll be on the same page anyway.

I just want to know if he sees it as something developing long term or he sees jt as casual and something for the time being I guess.

We've both said we don't want more children but haven't discussed marriage but that's not important to either us I don't think as both divorced.

Just ask him. If you can't even open the conversation, that tells you all you need to know.