I'm mid 30s live with my husband and 2 children. My parents moved abroad when I was 18.
Until I had children I would visit them once a year. Since then they visit us once a year but it's been 2 years now due to covid.
When my mum comes she stays with us but when it's both of them they stay in a near by air BnB.
They are coming over in a few weeks, booked the tickets. I've just emailed them some Airbnb options. And I feel so on edge about them replying.
Both of them are awful communicators. My Dad responds to me if I initiate but he never calls or emails me first. My mum instant messages me all the time but not really in a coherent way. Like she'll have a few days of bombarding me with cat videos and if I don't reply she'll say ARE YOU OK??? I find it very annoying. She doesn't really live in the real world, never had a proper job so I struggle to relate to her.
Anyway because we don't have enough normal contact and because I am bitter about them leaving in the first place I worry about things like this. I feel like if they have an issue with anything that I've suggested they will struggle to tell me. My mum can be very passive aggressive because she doesn't have the emotional maturity to confront things.
I really don't want to be on edge until they reply about my suggestions of where to stay.
Any advice? Any one been through anything similar?