Hi, I met someone on bumble, they live 60 miles away. I've met 3 other people on bumble and non were right for me but this guy seems to have same interests/values etc, at least so far. This is my first time dating in 30 years so really out of touch with what's 'normal'. First date I suggested a drink, he said he'd like a meal and came up with a restaurant for lunch which was 30 miles for me and 50 miles for him (ie not in the middle but off direct route between us). Spoke on the phone several times and he seems a very lovely easy going guy. Now 2nd date is this weekend. I messaged him and said to make things easier let's meet half way such as C. He has come back with, let's meet at A or B (beauty spots) and go for a walk and a meal, both are 50 miles away for both of us. I have to get a train to London late that afternoon so said I'm limited on time so better to meet in the middle. He's come back and said we'll just do the meal then and not the walk. I'm so confused as to why on earth he'd want to travel so far unnecessarily this early on, plus if he's willing to travel 50 miles then why not come 50 miles my way, or dare I say it come all the way being as I'm pushed for time! Then i can travel next time. He seems to want these dates to be an event whilst I just think it's best to get a coffee or a drink and chat and get to know one another. I'm sure people will think I should be grateful he's making so much effort but it really is the wrong type of effort for me. I'm much more interested in having as easy a life as possible and just getting to know each other. The travelling unnecessarily is a real problem for me, it just isn't sustainable at this stage. Any thoughts or experience in this would be much appreciated. I've only just started this dating and already thinking about packing it In 😀.