Should I just block him or would this be rude?

[MN23145]

Name change for this one.

I received a random call last night from a number I didn't recognise. Texted the number and asked who it is. They replied that it was an incorrect number. I thought ok fair enough, it happens.

Then he starts sending me pictures of his sleeves, tattoos, kinda cute as I love tattoo art. Whatever.

Tried to bid him farewell and he's been texting me ever since. Not currently in a relationship but definitely not looking for anything either. Made this very clear but for whatever reason, he won't stop texting me and sending me pictures. Starting to feel a bit uncomfortable.

Do I block him or would that be rude?

Block!

Yes, block. Now.

Block him. So what if it's rude? He's rude and has poor boundaries.

Who cares if it’s rude? Block.

A bit rude? I think this complete stranger's feelings won't be too badly hurt if you decide to stop him from making you look at photos of him.

Yes you're right, I guess I was raised to treat people with kindness unless they show unkindness towards me. Which he hasn't. He's just being bloody weird and it's creeping me out, that's all. He saw my picture on WhatsApp too so now I'm worried he'll try to find me on social media or something. 😩

But thanks guys. Blocking him now

Thank you. Men need to be taught that this kind of creepy behaviour gets them nowhere.

You tried to bid him farewell, have made it very clear you're not interested, but he still won't leave you alone, and is now making you uncomfortable. I would call that unkind. And even if you don't, why does his comfort matter more than yours?

And that's before you start to consider what sort of person behaves like that with a total stranger. I wouldn't want anything to do with him to be honest, life has drama enough, I don't go looking for it.

Block. Don't think twice about it.
I'd have a think about 'being kind' too. Be kinder to yourself and worry less about offending people who are not worried about bothering you.

Sorry, not trying to say that you are looking for drama. Just explaning my justification for blocking anyone like that.

More than a bit worrying. Has he got the wrong number? Is it someone who likes you who has got your number off a friend? From a dating site. If he won't tell you who he is, then definitely block. It's unacceptable behaviour and there are laws to protect people from this.

As an aside, abusive people always push your boundaries. Reads like abusive behaviour to me.

Yeah block. He will be sending dick pics next.

OP, you said this;
He's just being bloody weird and it's creeping me out

Why would you want to 'be kind' to somebody in this situation?

Block. It is not rude. Don't worry about offending some pervy stranger. Do you think that he is sat there worrying about any negative effect he is having on you?

Why do you care about being rude to a stranger?

Who cares?

Female socialisation to ‘be nice’ is just absolutely wild. This man gives no fucks about your boundaries- why do you care about niceties?

You are all absolutely right. I feel like a bit of an idiot now. I suppose I didn't look at it as him being pushy as rude, as such. But it absolutely is.

To the pp who asked if he definitely got the wrong number, yes, I'm about 99% sure. He's from a completely different city than where I live. There's no way this man knows me.

I wouldn't have had an issue if he had just said oh sorry wrong number and that was that. It was when he messaged me on WhatsApp that I became concerned.

Thanks again for your replies everyone

Do you have brothers and if so, do you think they'd be so worried about seeming rude and unkind to someone who was creeping them out that they would seek the permission of strangers on the Internet to block them?

You can change your settings on WhatsApp so that someone you don't know can't add you to a conversation.

@FetchezLaVache definitely not. They would probably laugh at me if they knew I'd created this thread for advice in fear of coming across as "rude" to a complete stranger.

If you feel this man is weird and is creeping you out then there is no reason at all to worry about being rude.

Having said that, blocking this man is not 'being rude'. Saying 'fuck off' would be rude. Blocking someone is just the same as silently walking away from them.

You realise this man probably messages/calls random numbers all the time, waiting for someone to bite? And you did.

@AgathaX

You realise this man probably messages/calls random numbers all the time, waiting for someone to bite? And you did.

Ew. I'm such an idiot. I should have blocked him from the first WhatsApp message I received. I just hope he can't find me on social media from my WhatsApp picture. I have deactivated my Facebook temporarily also.

@MN23145

Name change for this one.

I received a random call last night from a number I didn't recognise. Texted the number and asked who it is. They replied that it was an incorrect number. I thought ok fair enough, it happens.

Then he starts sending me pictures of his sleeves, tattoos, kinda cute as I love tattoo art. Whatever.

Tried to bid him farewell and he's been texting me ever since. Not currently in a relationship but definitely not looking for anything either. Made this very clear but for whatever reason, he won't stop texting me and sending me pictures. Starting to feel a bit uncomfortable.

Do I block him or would that be rude?

"Kinda cute"? From a random person you don't know? Kinda bizarre I think.

@ValerieCupcake not him lol 😩 the sleeves 🤣🤣 he actually wasn't bad looking to be fair. Just...creepy 😟

[quote MN23145]@ValerieCupcake not him lol 😩 the sleeves 🤣🤣 he actually wasn't bad looking to be fair. Just...creepy 😟[/quote]
Lol !!!