Actions speaking louder then words moving in together.

[notmrscookie]

I live in a house with my 2 sons who are in their 20s (unlikely to move out ) We have one bathroom and a separate downstairs toilet.Current bathroom routine just works. .I get up early then both boys.
I been with new partner for nearly 2 years.
I am fed up only seeing him twice a week and he says he would like more.
He has a part buy part rent property which is compact .It has a massive cupboard full of extra bedding etc. I suggested clearing that out and re homing some of the stuff to my garage or his parents and i could store some clothes etc in it and stay for longer.
Six weeks later nothing has happened. His flat is very messy and he rarely cleans it which I would find hard but I could cope.Parking is an issue but we could see.

However in his mind I should create an ensuite in my bedroom cupboard and he can move in .
Have thought about this before but it will be alot if mess and cost.( awaiting quote)
He then said he could pay me a small amount and move it or I could buy something different that suits us as I have talked about moving but it all seems like it's me doing the work and mega expense whilst he protects himself.

kinda feel it time to say Goodbye as he is dragging his feet doing the easiest thing to allow us to spend more time together.

Views pls ?

Is there not another option?

Both rent out your properties (not sure how that works with his type of mortgage) and rent somewhere more suitable together?

I wouldn't go all in and buy together without trying to see if you can put up with each other first though as it already sounds like you're expecting difficulties

Do you really want to live with someone who doesn't keep his environment clean and can't bothered to make an effort to change things? I couldn't find the enthusiasm for that.

Wait, he said you should buy something for both of you? Why not him? He doesn’t sound very appealing from what you’ve said, OP.
Just a scruffy cocklodger.

Sounds like he wants a cushy life with you further running around after him. Why on earth would you want to move such a man into your home?. This is who he is and such an untidy man is not going to change once he’s in your house. What he says and what’s he does are two very different things.

Why is your relationship bar this low?.

Lol. He wants you to buy him a house to live in, or change yours so he can live there? Where did you find this cocklodger, throw him back 😂

You're at risk of becoming mum to 3 boys. Don't do it.

I agree. He wants you to cook/clean/shag. Don’t do it.

Cant believe you're considering this enough to even post tbh. Id have laughed in his face, the cheeky fucker.

What will he be bringing to the table?