OLD question

[RedCandyApple]

I want to start OLD but how do you get over the embarrassment of seeing people that recognise you on there? I know “if there on there as well then they are in the same boat” blah blah blah but I still hate the thought of people outside recognising me and seeing familiar faces on there. Did anyone else feel this way and how did you overcome it?

Why does it bother you so much? If you think OLD is embarassing, why do you want a relationship with someone who does it?

I don’t think old is embarrassing I think seeing people I know on there is as I keep my private life personal! I downloaded tinder a while back and recognised a few of them men on there and I would hate them to see me on there as like I said I’m a very private person.

I basically don’t want to advertise I’m single and looking for a relationship to people that know me.

It's highly unlikely anyone you know will go out of their way to mention they saw you on tinder, they won't. They are just doing the same as you.
You can keep the profile simple, if you're worried about people be nosey.

Well assuming you are on the mainstream dating sites and not some very niche fetish site then nobody is really going to be bothered. When I was OLD I saw a few work colleagues listed and I just thought good luck to them. Pretty much everyone is OLD these days so it's not a big deal.

Fair enough I use to be on a social media site when I was younger and I got loads of messages from guys who said they see me around/ recognise me. I even use to have ones approach me about it!

I see where you're coming from OP. You don't want to walk into shop and the guy at the check out who you went to school with knows that you value a good sense of humour and enjoy long walks on the beach!

Just remember you can block whoever on there. So if you see someone you know then just block them - simple!

Also there is nothing wrong with being online dating- everyone does it! If someone is single then you'd expect them to be online dating.

Provided you're not talking about your kinks in vivid detail I think you're all good! Enjoy it! I hope you find someone amazing!

Good idea about blocking anyone I recognise I think I will do that!

I saw my next door neighbour on Match! Neither of us realised that the other halves had moved out

We ended up going for a drink and suggested if we didn’t meet anyone we could get together and knock our houses into one

Honestly it’s not a big deal. Everyone is on there, nobody judges. But I know what you mean. My biggest fear is my ex seeing me on there bigging myself up and presenting myself in a good light when he thinks I’m crazy and unreasonable.

I didn’t even think of my ex seeing me! Yes that would be the worst. I wouldn’t date anyone I know personally. I was thinking of maybe taking a picture that’s not so obvious it’s me maybe from far away or something 😂 then I could send more pics over WhatsApp. My sisters a teacher and she didn’t want any school dads to recognise her so took a full length picture of her in the mirror looking down it didn’t stop men from messaging her.

I hope to start dating later this year and had been wondering about the same thing. Though the ex husband is my biggest concern.

Apparently you can use Bumble incognito, so they only see you if you swipe, and something like that on Plenty of Fish (though that's supposed to be one place to avoid ). I don't know about other dating sites, so place marking the thread with interest.

When I did online dating years ago, I hid my profile so that only men I looked at first could contact me or I could make the first contact.

That might help until you feel more comfortable with it.

Significantly reduces the number of "howz u?" and "hey sexy" messages you get too

Why are worried about what other ppl think,
Surely you want to put yourself above what people think, and so what if someone see’s you, all it shows is that they are on OLD as well.

I’m not on any social media at all, I guess that’s why, I keep my life Very private. I just don’t want to advertise that I’m single and looking. Before men use to approach me as they recognised me, maybe that happens less these days? It was about 10 years ago!

That’s good to know that’s possible GreyCarpet I will look at doing that!

I posted something similar a while ago because I didn't want my ex seeing me OLD! Like you am very private and really really didn't want him knowing my business lol so watching this thread with interest!

Do you live in a small town OP? Where I am it's a big city so unlikely to be anyone I know on it.

No I Live in London but when I downloaded it I saw quite a few men I know (acquaintances) on there (I didn’t put up a pic)

@Lanesdown

I posted something similar a while ago because I didn't want my ex seeing me OLD! Like you am very private and really really didn't want him knowing my business lol so watching this thread with interest!

I’m glad it’s not just me; just don’t want people recognising me from tinder I don’t like people knowing I’m single or looking to date.

Paid for Bumble has incognito mode. I felt the same as you. You are only seen by the people you swipe right on - so if you see someone you know you can swipe left and you never appear in their choices.