I feel like an idiot for not seeing my ex for who he was earlier.
He is currently refusing to attend our daughters birthday party, because my family will also be attending. I struggle to believe that he would happily upset his daughter, rather than just experience a few hours of discomfort.
He was abusive while we were together, but I have maintained strong links with his family, trying to do the best for our daughter.
My sister works in domestic abuse, and has distrusted him for many years. She was pretty discreet about it whilst we were together, however was a massive support as we separated. He blames her for our marriage breakdown.
Many people have told me how unpleasant he was to them, since we separated. He was unkind to my niece on many occasions. Publicly abusive towards me. Rude to and distrustful of my friends and family, constantly slagging them off and trying to turn me against them. And it took me years to see this. I gave him multiple chances. Let him swear at me and call me things I vowed would be a line in the sand. Make me feel like shit, by physically violent. And kept on giving me chances. He was a walking red flag. And I kept forgiving him. Giving him another chance, and another, and another. And now I feel a fool and disgusted with myself. Seeing him for who he really is.