I don't know what I make of this??

[billiebash]

So I've been speaking with someone. We've been flirting etc and messaging a lot. Last night we met and were having some drinks.

Once he'd gone home, he messaged straight away. Then he laughed and said the drinks had gone 'straight to his head' so he had to remove himself from the situation before doing something he regrets?? I asked what that was meant to mean and this morning he's just laughed the comment off.

So I'm reading that as hes not interested in me, so would regret it going any further? I might be overthinking it but it just seems a bit of an odd comment!

I would see it as a positive. He sounds like he doesn't want to rush into sex until you are both sure that's what you want.

Yeah I'd read it as what previous poster has said!

I wouldn't think it's about sex, I'd interpret it as him not wanting to look like a drunken fool in front of a woman he likes.

You got on well and he message led straight afterwards. It seems odd that your go-to is to assume that he’s being rude . I’d have taken that as making a fool of himself, either by dancing or doing something silly, or by trying it on with you, and rushing things, potentially getting rebuffed. I wouldn’t have taken it as a negative - and I have cripplingly low self esteem!

No as PP has said I think it was a nice flirty message!
As in he might regret making a fool of himself.
You’re over thinking it

You are over thinking.

How early did he "remove himself"?

If you'd had a full evening, I'd think he meant before he turned all handsy on you.

Sounds like he fancies you a lot

I'd definitely see this as a positive. He didn't want to get too drunk in front of you. Make a move that you might not have felt appropriate on a first date. I don't think I'd see it as him regretting having been there with you. In my eyes if he'd felt that he probably wouldn't have bothered sending a message at all and you'd not have heard a thing from him.

I think he meant he went home before he tried it on with you and didn't want to embarrass himself if you turned him down. Sounds like a bloke with decent standards to me. Don't write him off yet OP ......

I'd have seen that as a positive thing too

That's a fishing flirty message to see how you react to the intimation that things could have gone further. (Not negative, or otherwise)

Oh gosh overwhelming majority!

Perhaps I'm overthinking as I'm terrible at that. I've just got this horrible tingy belly thinking that something is going to go wrong!! I need to calm it!

Thanks everyone

He’s telling you he fancies you!!!