Just found out I’m pregnant

[Rxr2915]

So I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. We have been friends for 15 years and things have been going amazingly.

Till this month- I thought we were being careful and I’ve been taking the pill. I’m two weeks late and low and behold the stick came back positive last night.

I don’t have kids and nor does he.

I am terrified about telling him by his reaction and honestly I don’t know what I want either I’m still processing myself!

Argh! Help! How do I tell him when abs what do I do if he freaks out- to be fair to him I just found out and I’m freaking out/ excited/ argh!

Noone can advise you on this just tell him ans see how he reacts, then talk things through and decide what YOU want to do. Your body, your choice but he can also decide to be involved or not... so many different possible outcomes, its hard for anyone else to say. Good luck and congratulations

Thanks. I’m completely stunned I didn’t think that would happen.
It’s going to be a huge shock to everyone. I’m just scared x

It’s scary for sure but you definitely need to let him know as soon as you feel ready. Best of luck and congratulations 💕💕💕

I was trying for 2.5 years and desperately wanted a baby but still felt scared when I found out. Be happy:)

Let’s hope he has a positive reaction. It’s a shame he didn’t get to decide whether he was ready to be a dad though

@SunflowerTed never did op from the sounds of her original post. Accidents happen. He could have wore a condom....

Neither not never*

I haven’t decided if I want to be a mum yet either I’ve been taking the pill so I don’t know how this has happened

You need to decide on options
Don't keep the baby
Keep the baby as a single parent
Judge his reaction if you're keeping the baby and decide whether or not to stay with him

This was me 5 years ago! My mini pill baby is now a gorgeous almost 4 year old. Best surprise ever and yes we are still together!

@SunflowerTed

Let’s hope he has a positive reaction. It’s a shame he didn’t get to decide whether he was ready to be a dad though

@SunflowerTed

@Rxr2915
No contraception is 100% take no mind of trolls with sexist agendas, who like to pick fights. It takes 2 to make a baby. Your boyfriend holds responsibility for this too.

This is a big thing to discover and you’ll need a few days for this to settle, your boyfriend will be there for you or he won’t be. You won’t know until you tell him. I hope all goes well

@SunflowerTed

Let’s hope he has a positive reaction. It’s a shame he didn’t get to decide whether he was ready to be a dad though

He decided he was ready to be a dad as soon as he decided to have sex without a condom, no?

Please remember that he will need time to take it in. You've had suspicions, done a test etc whereas he has no clue. His initial reaction may not be the same as when he has thought it through.
Hope it's good news for you op

Thanks I appreciate that I’m just crapping myself about all this

@HotelCaliforniaOnRepeat

Please remember that he will need time to take it in. You've had suspicions, done a test etc whereas he has no clue. His initial reaction may not be the same as when he has thought it through. Hope it's good news for you op

Yes I know that’s one the huge things concerning me

@Monty27

You need to decide on options Don't keep the baby Keep the baby as a single parent Judge his reaction if you're keeping the baby and decide whether or not to stay with him

You need to come to terms with it first and consider each scenario then tell him and take it from there. @SunflowerTed I don't think OP was ready either 🤨

So update

I told him and to be honest other than going white and needing a big drink (nothing to worry about he hadn’t been drinking prior and had a double whisky after the news set in before the internet berates me or him obviously I didn’t partake)

He was absolutely fine

He says it’s my body he loves me abs will go with whatever I chose obviously he has some concerns but he was smiling a lot when it all set in

So I think it was a holy f%#*€? Moment but who wouldn’t react like that

Let’s see how it pans out x

Congratulations OP! How lovely! My DP and I fell pregnant with our first within 4 months of meeting and are still together and happily married many years later! But even if it hadn't worked out with him, my DC is still the most wonderful blessing and my favourite thing in the world! I wish you all the best with your new family!

Glad it went well. How old are you both? Are you in work so able to get maternity leave?

@Rosieposie101

Congratulations OP! How lovely! My DP and I fell pregnant with our first within 4 months of meeting and are still together and happily married many years later! But even if it hadn't worked out with him, my DC is still the most wonderful blessing and my favourite thing in the world! I wish you all the best with your new family!

Thank you. He did ask whether I was going to take the tape of the part of the test covering the “not” in “not pregnant” but his sense of humours like that let’s see how it goes hey

@Fireflygal

Glad it went well. How old are you both? Are you in work so able to get maternity leave?

I’m 30 in a few days he’s 29.

I am the main earner I’m a manager in a recruitment company setting up a new branch so with salary and comms. Provided they don’t get rid of me before June I’ll be fine- can’t see why all is going well just going to keep this hush hush as I WFH full time. I would be taking the minimum time off ideally- again wfh so it wouldn’t be too bad to do so. Also my mum lives a mile away and his grandparents are 10 mins away so help is on hand.

He works in a cafe/restaurant- he’s thinking about doing an engineering course next year to improve his job prospects which actually would work out fine cause he could do lion share of day time parenting and my mum could have them while he is at college 12 hours a week and he could still work weekends or he would be entitled to use the nursery by looking at the website for more than the 12 hours to allow him more study time

OK, just that having a baby is expensive so look at the company policy and determine how you can live during mat leave.

Also consider using your surname for the baby. Whilst him doing childcare might seem positive it does open you up to who is resident parent, should you guys separate at sometime in the future. Sorry to sound so brutal but please consider that having a baby puts strains on a relationship even if it's planned. Lack of sleep, lack of sex, no time for hobbies,finances under strain really tests people and often that when cracks show.

Glad you have your mum and wish you good luck

Yep would agree with that having come through family litigation before!