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I can’t stand my DH right now.

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HelloPanda12 · 06/02/2022 18:02

This is more a rant than anything so please feel free to ignore, I just need to calm down and get it all out.

I’m 33 weeks pregnant today and my DH is constantly making promises to do things around the house (big things that I physically can’t do right now) and has been putting them off for weeks and weeks. We’ve had a huge row over it this evening and I’ve locked myself in the bathroom to clean it which is subsequently stopping me from dropping him! He’s had all weekend to do the things he’s said he’s going to do and has had to be told today at 5pm that he needs to get off his ass and do it! I’ve got boxes of baby things to build and put up that I can’t do until he sorts some of this shit out, for example heavy unwanted furniture that needs taking to the tip which is about 3 minutes down the road and a wardrobe that needs moving. I need his help painting and he went and asked his mum to come over and do it! I don’t fucking like the woman so I’ve now said I’ll just do it myself and told her I’ve sorted it. We only live in a small space and need to make as much room for this baby as possible but he’s so fucking slow and useless, I caught him folding dirty washing yesterday which he described as “tidying”. That caused a huge row, who the fuck folds dirty washing, just put it in the wash basket you useless fuck Angry Or better yet, put a wash on!

Does anyone else live with someone so irritatingly useless when it comes to things around the house? I’ve got such a bad back at the moment and a pre-existing issue with my legs that causes 24/7 pain and discomfort and going around the house to do things that he has said he will do but hasn’t is really taking it out of me and I can’t see the leg he’s trying to stand on with the arguments about it!

OP posts:
FuglyBitch · 06/02/2022 18:04

I’m sorry but it’ll only get worse after the baby

ErickBroch · 06/02/2022 18:07

I hate to say it but this is just going to become worse and even more unbearable when the baby is here. He is useless. You will have two children.

Mimilamore · 06/02/2022 18:09

They don't improve.... I remember wallpapering the kitchen when 8 months pregnant many years ago, I am doing the same now 30 years on but his health is bad so he can't actually do it now. He will put his heart and soul into anything that he is interested in but anything for the greater good is left.....

HelloPanda12 · 06/02/2022 18:11

I agree with you both, I can’t see us still being together by the end of this year unless he grows up! I’ve already told him three times this weekend I can’t stand living with him, I don’t need two children. This is my first baby and I’m shitting bricks enough as it is, I don’t need to be worried about what he is or isn’t doing when he should just be doing what he knows needs to be done.

OP posts:
Blushinggerbil · 06/02/2022 18:15

How old is he ugh, sorry opFlowers

megladon2020 · 06/02/2022 20:00

What was he like around the house before you were pregnant? I couldn't be with a man that was so lazy and unproductive and has so little respect for his heavily pregnant wife.

drybird · 06/02/2022 20:18

Sadly like others have already said your not going to change him and it will get worse. I've been waiting 4 years for the decking he broke in the garden then ripped up to be replaced. Tried to get quote for it to be done.. no no I'll do it myself. That day never comes.. he's f'ing useless and it drives me nuts. I once got a drill out to put up stair gate myself I'd been waiting forever to be done.. never seen him jump so fast out of a chair. Do let this eat you away.. pay someone to do the jobs he fails to do and get him to pay!

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