Husband opens post and that's where it lives...

[HoneyFlowers]

My husband does something that drives me potty. He opens the post up and wherever he's standing the paper is dropped and that's its home. He doesn't organise or file paper, he has no system. Anyone else have a hubby like this?

Just leave it on the floor, see how long it takes him to notice.

Do you have a system OP?

I have a filing tray for his shit. All of it. Occasionally he will need something. He also has a chair for his clothes but uses the bin or the dressing table or the top of the chest of drawers. No idea why.

I do all the admin, but he does any calls or letters that require playing hard ball. Including sacking people, so I'd rather have my roll. He's generally very useful, so I don't let it bother me. If he was useless, it could well be the last straw.

Bin it. He'll catch on soon enough.

I used to have one like that, though he’d put the letter back in the envelope before dropping it. He’s an XH now, obviously this wasn’t the main reason but it did drive me potty!

My husband does just this, has never moved a letter in his life, I tried leaving it, it piled up, I tried putting his dinner on top of it, didn't notice. The best he can manage is to push it all to one side.
I did it d bin a vital vehicle insurance letter once and it cost us dear and has forever been my fault so I won't do that again!
They don't change...

Yes mine does this! Its soooo annoying.

I've stopped cleaning it up tbh and just leave it til he puts it away or in the recycling.

He does the same with pretty much everything 😡

How old are these people?

We can both be a bit guilty of this. I think it’s because I usually resent getting the post so I want it out my hands ASAP. It gets sorted out in the weekly big tidy up if not before.

My DH does this. My solution was to buy a shredder and a box file to keep in the kitchen. He likes using the shredder so it incentivises him to actually "sort" his post - if we need to keep it (rare) it goes in the box file. Then at the end of the year the box file goes on the shelf and we get a new one for the new year. It's not much of a system but it keeps the counters clear!

Try having a relationship with an adult, that should help!

Yes. Although most of the time he doesn't open them, and leaves in a pile in the kitchen. I open them and give him a pile to file every few months. (I have set up files for various stuff but try to go paperless where possible) ....then later I find the pile just dumped in the study (about 50cm from the file they belong in!)

I'm more the culprit for this in my house. I don't want to file it away if I need to do something with it, but if something else distracts me there's a good chance I will forget the letter exists until I trip over it.

I have a napkin holder in the kitchen that it purely for paperwork. If I leave stuff lying around and it's in DPs way, he can chuck it in the napkin holder, or on my desk, whichever is easiest for him at the time. I do the same for him if he leaves things.

When the holder gets too full, I sort it out.

Yes I have one like that, includes the newspapers, leaves random lights on outside or in the cellar, doors are external doors are left unlocked behind closed curtains .. you get the drift & other random bits and bibs that get left when finished using said item. Drives me potty constantly chasing behind. When I mention X .. I get “I’m sorry I’ve done something wrong again, I was just about to do X” this makes drives me spare, as there are usually there are several hours between action and event .. I prefer the “touch it once” mindset & deal with it , bin it or file it away.. the mantra gets lost … DH is a keeper and wonderful father, 20yrs on & yes still “in training”!