Great guy, but …

[BacksideFirst]

I’ve been seeing a great guy for the past 18 months. We’re both divorced but not living together. It’s a great relationship but his job takes him out of the county every few weeks. During this time we talk over the phone or if we can’t (due to our working hours, etc) we send emails. The last few emails have been a bit racy (as you do….) but certainly not in bad taste.

The recent ones he’s sent have been just scenarios (but nothing weird) but the last few he’s asked me to send a few…which I have but I’m running out of ideas on what to say! Sex is sex and I’m no author!

I don’t want to come across boring but my imagination isn’t that great, lol!
Help!

Tell him to read 50 shades of grey. No point in re-inventing the wheel.

Oh god, I'd find it so tedious, lol. I had an ex like this and I found the only way to do it was to pretend, googled erotic fiction and copied some of that! Seemed to do the trick. But on a deeper level, it just wasn't me and I felt a fraud and also, strangely 'used'. Difficult to describe really. I had to fess up and say it wasn't my bag.

It's a great way to keep you both connected while apart. Doesn't have to be cringe.
A good one... tell him you've been thinking about him all day. How you'd come through the door to greet him, what you'd be wearing, what he can and cant do while watching you undress...etc...etc... describe the build up rather than just diving straight in and describing the sex. As you say, sex is sex!!

Why don’t you start with scenarios that you would like to happen or fantasies that you’ve had. It doesn’t have to be super explicit or it can be extra explicit depending on your preferences but don’t be shy, remember it’s all fun and enjoy it 😉