One year after breakup - getting there but still not completely there

[Teatimes2]

So myself and boyfriend of 5 years broke up almost a year ago. I've worked hard on myself, have had a few counselling sessions. He told me he'd never loved me when I asked him so I was really heartbroken at how emotionless and cold he was, but I know now I ignored a lot of red flags that I'd be more aware of in the future - eg couldn't discuss feelings, belittled my home, hobbies, etc. So my confidence took a hit and counselling has helped. I haven't cried over him in months, but now, coming up to the anniversary of the breakup I'm feeling quite low in myself and I don't want to feel this way. I'd guess I feel about 75% over him, but there's still that lingering impact. I suppose my question is, is this relatively normal after a year?

There is no normal in breakups, it's your normal and you sound as though you are doing well.

He sounds as though he took you down on his departure to ease his guilt.

My advice would be anything he said on his leaving just disregard, the faults he aimed at you were probably the very faults he had or should haved owned.

Some men can be twats like that.

You sound lovely, don't let this turd affect your confidence.

It's difficult but you've just got to miss them until one day you don't miss them anymore

@Mysticguru

It's difficult but you've just got to miss them until one day you don't miss them anymore

Yea this is so true !

You miss your ex terribly and everything reminds you of them and you want them back and then over time you start getting over them like you said your 75% over him and then literally one day you will realise that you haven't thought about them or missed them in ages. You won't even notice you've forgotten about them

It's usually when you are fully happy with yourself so work on yourself, do fun things and be kind to yourself !

Do relaxing things and soon enough he will be a distant memory

I think feeling sad at an anniversary is natural. Let yourself feel how you feel and the emotions will drain away. Trying to force yourself to not feel will make them get stuck instead.