Stupid things we've done for relationships ...

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

What's the stupidest thing you've done?

I often listen to Pick of the Pops on Saturday afternoons but am listening to it now, as I was out yesterday. One of the years is bringing back awkward memories of what a fool I was.

I met a 30 year old guy and he was pushing me to move out of the accommodation I was in and find somewhere else, "so we could see each other more" - I did, abandoned my housemates and spent all the time waiting for him to get in touch, and getting upset when he told me not to call him. He would come round, we would go to bed, then he would bobby off until next time. And there I was, six months later, marvelling to my friends that "we are still together and never had an argument." We had probably seen each other eight times, and the first time we met at a party he made sure I got pissed.

He showed me spanking articles online and wanted me to buy the gear. (I didn't, I was horrified!). It turned out he was a married philanderer. He gave me chlamydia. And I blamed myself for not being enough for him. Had to grovel to go back and lose my bond as well and mucked up a couple of exams and assignments too.

I can be wry about it now but I wasn't then. Learned a lot from it.

I messed up a university course for the "love of my life" who really couldn't give two 💩 about me. He was in the army and looking back I'm quite sure had other gfs.

I spent days on end waiting for him to call or come back and see me. I didn't go to important exams because he was in town and I had to see him. He would arrive back and I would spend a few days with him and then not see him for ages. I cried and cried over that stupid idiot.

In the end I missed so much of my course and was so depressed that I quit and went overseas to get away from it all.

Had to start all over again a few years later. What an idiot.

Years ago I was with a bloke I really loved (more fool me)

I found out I was pregnant but didn’t know at this stage that I was carrying twins and sadly miscarried one of the babies-I was rushed to hospital and while in I had to have a swab taken to check for infections that could have caused it

He thought it was a good idea to scream at me on the way to the hospital that ‘of all the kids you’ve got,why have you fucking lost mine?’

Like I had control of it!

Anyway I had a scan and found out that my other baby was fine and there was no reason I wouldn’t carry to full term

We got home and I just wanted to go to bed and rest

He had other ideas-I was just dozing off when he ragged me awake to tell me (not ask) that ‘I know your not up for proper sex but we’re going to do anal-I don’t want blood on my cock’

I told him to fuck off-it wasn’t happening-I’d had an awful day,had really been put through the wringer and just needed to sleep

He then ranted about the swab I’d had-how grim it was to watch and how it had put him off sex with me

I should have booted him out then but I didn’t

It got worse as I got more pregnant and after a long day for being pregnant with 4 other kids and work (he didn’t work-what a surprise) I just needed my rest-I was lucky to get 3 hours sleep a night at this point-he’d stay up til 2/3 am-I had to be up for 6/7am and he’d sleep until 4/5pm-rinse and repeat

He got funny with me when I was in labour as the poor little lamb had only had 3 hours sleep-er,I’d had none as I was in fucking labour!

Gave birth and because I wasn’t up for sex right away he ended up shagging my best mate and leaving me for her

Years later I heard he’s gone missing and his family seem to think he’s been murdered but have zero proof-it made me laugh when they said in the papers ‘x has two sons who miss him’ and ‘he was an amazing dad’

Yes the same sons (he had a son before we met) who he’s not bothered with and has never paid a penny for either of them

If he has I can’t say I’ll shed any tears for him

I let my now ex stay overnight at my place once, he snored loudly, didn't let him stay again in the 4 years we were together.