Does your DH constantly dominate?

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I don’t know what to do about my husband. He’s become very difficult to live with. Uncompromising, belligerent, telling me what to do. I’ve had enough. For example when I’m driving it’s “park here” “keep going” “watch that bus” I don’t know if this is normal but it’s destroying my self esteem and self confidence and I don’t want to have sex with him anymore. Why is he acting like this? How do I change it? I’m having to constantly deflect criticism and everything he talks about is a negative towards me. It’s not overt but it’s there. Theres no positivity or fun or good humour. What does this mean?

No, and if he tries it ever I have always shut it down. "Park here" - "No thanks, I'm parking here." If he kept making comments on driving I'd tell him to either stop backseat driving or he can get out and walk.

It would be interesting to me to meet a person who thought they could dominate me. I'm 71 now, and never met such a person. Which probably explains why I've been divorced as many times as I have.

I'm my defence, I've never met anyone I thought I wanted to dominate. I understand I need to walk to the best of my own drum, and so do others,to their drum. I don't always "get" their drum beat, and they don't get mine. Thats fine.

I think you probably need to make an appointment with your GP for him. I don't know how old you are, although you say you're old. Are you sure it's not some sort of dementia? I understand that some people can have a change in personality when they have mental problems. Honestly, I'd get it checked out. Maybe keep a diary of when he gets snappy or controlling and what causes it.