Finally come to the conclusion it is over between us - how do I deal with the logistics of it??

[Jazzicatz]

Dp and I are over and I need to move on with my life. I have 2 ds's 5 & 3, doing a phd and have recently got a part-time teaching job in London at a different Uni. Dp will stay in the house, so where can I live with my ds's? How do I go about it as I have not any money - just need some advice about how to go about it and what my rights are. Thanks.

Why will dp stay in the house? Why does he have more right to it than you? You may find the law is more protecting than you think

The house has been left to him through a family member and it is still in probabte.

Anyone???

you need someone ultimatley practical like Custy...

Yes - hopefully she is not being quite so 'honest' as I feel a little fragile at the mo!!!!!!!

you need to see a solicitor. i dont know whether you have any rights as such over inherted property if you are unmarried.

re housing - your options are severely limited unless you look to privately rent somewhere or buy,

if you want a council or housing association place i fear they may look at your circumstances at the moment and say you are adequatley housed unless your dp agrees to chucking you out.

they may well then ofer to help you with legal asistance on getting you and the children in the house and kicking him out - they may not depends on local authority. at that point you will be put into temporary acomodation for some months until a counjcil flat comes available

you should search your local authority website for homelessness

you could also phopne SHELTER - they will know the legal intracacies around your right to the house or not

Thanks Custy - will do those things after new year - looks like I may be stuck here then???

your 3 main housing options are: social landlord; private landlord; buy tour own.

are there any of those that you can immediately rule out / rule in?

I have a feeling that even though you are not married and your dp has inherited the house that you may have the right to stay their until your dc are older provided they are his children IYSWIM. Although as it's still in probate this may not be the case. could you posssibly stay and leave seperate lives for a while?

If not I think all you can do is move out and claim for maintenance through the CSA unless you can come to a private arrangement.

Cannot afford to do any of those vitomum - so looks like I am stuck here!!!!

Are your sons your dp's children?

Yes they are both his.

i would strongly advise you to contact Shelter. If there is a route into social rented housing for you in your area they will find it for you. Whatever you do do not take the local authority / housing associations word as read as they will almost certainly try and put you off in the first instance. THere is such a wide discrepancy in local policiues / practice. As custy says in some areas you would be consisdered adequately housed. Yet in my own local authority someone in your position would be considered homeless and have rights under homeless law, but also have additional points for wiating list applications etc. Please get specialist and Independent advice

Thanks so much vitomum I will do that.

CAB will also advise on benefits, access rights etc. and help you fill in all those forms. Ask DH if he is agreeable to cough up for your deposits and first months rent in a private rent, then immediatly apply for Housing benefit and all the other benefits.
I had a friend with 5 kids who finally left her DH and when she had her first emergency payment of benefits, she thought it was for a month, when it was for a week, as her DH had been so mean with the money.

Thanks to you aslo discoverlife - will do all that as I cannot remain here as it is.