Sexless relationship I need out

[itsnotallrainbows]

Me and my dp have been together for 8 years and have a 5 year old ds. We don't really argue but we sometimes don't get along but basically since our son has been born we have had sex 2 times in 5 years. We are basically friends and I'm so unhappy but terrified of leaving. I'm scared to be on my own and how it will affect our son. But I can't do this anymore. We have talked had councelling tried medication etc and nothing has changed. I'm only 32 and I can't imagine the next 15 years like this any advice please?

Surely getting her cake and eating it would be having sex inside a marriage and having it outside of marriage too?

Is it possible to be sexually unfaithful to a person you are not I a sexual relationship either?

I know right?

Is it possible to be sexually unfaithful to a person you are not I a sexual relationship either?

Might be just me but not all cheating involves sex so I’d assume same could be said for that situation… everyone has different standards though. Perhaps the husband is off getting it elsewhere with someone he actually fancies. I assume that would be ok then in those scenarios or would these women flip out at that given the double standards at play going by your definition of what would define a cheat?

Surely getting her cake and eating it would be having sex inside a marriage and having it outside of marriage too?

Is it possible to be sexually unfaithful to a person you are not I a sexual relationship either?

The assumption of marriage or most monogamous relationships is that the person oesn't shag someone else/go behind the others' back.

'Have your cake and eat it' isn't just about any sex a person might be getting or not getting within their relationship. They are getting the 'perks' of a committed relationship from their partner (in theory!) -stability, security, comfort and support, while at the same time getting that rush of sexual freedom of not being in a commited relationship.

Don't leave it too long.This was me and my H after the birth of our last child. The dry spell was years and years. At the age of 60 after we split up I had the most amazing sexual affair with a guy who reminded me what sex was all about. While that didn't last I am now married again to a guy and we love having sex with each other. It's only when you find it again you realise how much time you wasted.

Sounds as though you are already alone really, it just needs to be made 'official.'

@Pentiumgold

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I feel the same about my husband but married 24 years with 3 children and now have had enough. Not sure if I'm strong enough to leave x

Sorry to say but he could be getting it elsewhere or prefers porn!!

@ForOnePostOnly

Don't leave it too long.This was me and my H after the birth of our last child. The dry spell was years and years. At the age of 60 after we split up I had the most amazing sexual affair with a guy who reminded me what sex was all about. While that didn't last I am now married again to a guy and we love having sex with each other. It's only when you find it again you realise how much time you wasted.

@ForOnePostOnly

Out of interest, were you on HRT aged 60? Curious as to how hormones and arousals work past menopause.