This is long, but I have no one else to talk to about this.
Separated 5 years. I won't go into all the gory details suffice to say XH is not a nice man. By mumsnet standards he was an abusive fucker.
Anyway, he has been paying support like he was supposed to but now he has gone off work 'for mental health reasons'.
Reading between the lines....not long before Christmas he starting renting a place which cost double his current rent (which he had previously stated he could not afford). He claimed he did it in a fit of madness of being sick of being in a small flat. At the time he told me about it I said to him, 'I assumed you got a bigger place because you were moving in with someone else', and he let out a wail, 'not anymore' and started crying. For real. I mean, it seems completely obvious to me he thought he was moving in with someone and they decided not to. I pretended i didn't really hear what he said but I can't forget it. He has not said anything about it since.
A couple months prior to the change in address he had asked me for my ID and our original marriage certificate because he said he needed it to finally be able to transfer over some money he owed me. So I gave it. I never got the money transferred but he did serve me with divorce papers. I signed that I had got them but I didn't really know what to do with them. I asked a lawyer and she said he probably wouldn't be granted the divorce because he hadn't paid me enough or something along those lines. He never talks to me about the divorce papers. He has mostly stopped talking to me at all though.
So I am thinking he has gone off the deep end because his new partner dumped him? Not my business but he hasn't visited the DCs for 6 weeks and if he gets fired I will get no support payments.
Is anyone able to read more into this than I or have past experience?