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Sex feels awkward

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Mazambo · 05/02/2022 11:09

I’ve been with DH for 9 yrs, married for 5.
We have been TTC for years but for the last few months, sex has felt awkward.
I know I am a bit self conscious as I have (sorry but TMI) anal skin tags caused by Crohn’s disease and I’m very self conscious about DH seeing or feeling them and that makes me not enjoy being in bed with him as I’m too tense.
Doctor won’t remove them on the nhs (that’s NhS procedure but if it was piles they would!) and it would cost over £3000 to have them removed privately but we can’t afford that right now.
DH doesn’t seem to be able to get in the mood either and I keep thinking it’s because of my skin tags and that shatters my self confidence and makes me depressed. He says he’s not bothered by the skin tags but I think he just doesn’t want to upset me.
What can I do to get us both in the mood as we are going on holiday in a couple of weeks and would be nice to be intimate there.

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GeneLovesJezebel · 05/02/2022 11:11

Are you sure it’s just the skin tags causing this or are there other issues ?
Has sex become about making babies and not making love ?

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Mazambo · 05/02/2022 11:16

@GeneLovesJezebel

Are you sure it’s just the skin tags causing this or are there other issues ? Has sex become about making babies and not making love ?
Definitely since the skin tags appeared as we’ve been TTC for years but it’s always been a bit of a ‘if it happens, it happens’ rather than it being all that matters and having charts and regimented sex. Have had a couple of MC - last MC was in 2017.
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