Just seen arsehole narcissistic ex's profile on dating app

[littlerebellion]

And it killed me. WHY???!

He broke my heart and treated me like shit. He was truly awful to me and it took me a year to even start getting over it. I've moved on (ha!) and am dating again.

I know the term 'narcissist' is used a lot on MN, but he genuinely ticked all of the boxes. He taught me a lot about myself and my boundaries, and my self respect. So why did it hurt so much to see him on a dating app?

Deep down you were probably hurt for the next poor girl that has to endure is narcissistic ways. They never change, he's just on there looking for his next 'victim' you're free, stay happy

I think its the thought of them treating someone else much better than they did us. But, in reality they go on to eventually treat them in similar, if not exactly the same ways.. A toxic t#@t* will always be a toxic t#@t*

I saw my ExH on Tinder about 2 yes after we'd divorced. He was emotionally coersive. I panicked and deleted my profile immediately - because I was somehow terrified he'd seen my profile.
I shouldn't have felt that way - we'd been separated a while after all but it really shocked me for some reason.
It took me a while to pluck up the courage to go back online myself but I did eventually and now I have a lovely BF.

Even though he is a colossal dickhead, it still hurts that he wants to see other women.

I don't even want him in my life.

I guess this is what these kind of people do to us.

It still hurts because you haven't yet fully recognised the blessing and joy it is to be free of him and because on some level youre still thinking of yourself as being rejected and unlovable.

It hurts because tou weren’t expecting to see him there and it took you back to a bad time when he broke your heart.

It’s still with you as you e not worked through it and you haven’t got a better bf than him - as yet.

Once you do you will be so happy and he will be a prick from the past that you feel nothing for and eventually pretty much forget about.