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Found husbands viagra

26 replies

Haribo12345678910 · 04/02/2022 11:37

Hi, I’m 28F and my husband is 32M. My husband is a hardcore gym goer (He goes at least 4 days a week and watches bodybuilders etc).

Yesterday, I was moving my medicine box into a bigger box and I came across a glasses case with 2 packets of pills, one which I knew about and he has openly said he takes which was a beta blocker. The other pills were Taladifil/cialis20mg which is used as a erectile dysfunction tablet but also for pulmonary hypertension which I know he doesn’t have. Now our sex life is great and he has only had problems getting it up if he is stressed or anxious. He hadn’t had trouble with it recently so I assumed it wasn’t that.

So I did a bit of Googling and came to the conclusion that it was for the gym as it can increase blood flow and build muscle easier. I just put them back in the box and left it.

However this morning, he got a package through the post which has his full name on which he only uses for medical or professional use. The package was small and it felt like a meds packet. So there a was a flap open on it and I looked inside to see it was Sildenafil 100mg. So I googled it to see what it was and then found out it is viagra. So I closed the hole and presumed again it was for the gym. However when I googled viagra dose for the gym it said should take about 5mg as a pre-workout. I just left it and waiting for him to come home.

I watched him open the packet and just said he ordered the beta blocker that I knew he took. This was obviously bullshit and then proceeded to put it in his pocket.

Should I confront him? I don’t care that he’s taking it, it’s his body but I just wanted him to be honest with me.

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Gowithme · 04/02/2022 11:58

Maybe the reason he hasn't had trouble lately is because he is taking viagra? My biggest concern would be that he's so gym/body builder obsessed that he might be taking steroids and that's why he needs viagra. If that's not the case he might just be a bit embassaed/ashamed of it and that's why he lied so i wouldn't be too hard on him, just clear that relationships need trust and honesty.

Muddlebubble · 04/02/2022 12:24

Beta blockers unfortunately can make erections difficult, men are often offered viagra when using them as it is a common complaint.
Maybe he is just embarrassed about it. But i would just ask him out right

Pky45 · 04/02/2022 12:33

There is evidence that some beta blockers can cause ED, maybe he is one to counter act a side effect of the other

www.forhims.com/blog/metoprolol-and-erectile-dysfunction

You just need to ask really

NetflixAndSauvignonBlanc · 04/02/2022 12:40

I would straight up tell him what you've found, don't try and catch him out. Let him know that you don't want to judge him, just to check he's ok and go from there. He obviously feels the need to hide it for some reason (likely embarrassment) so I wouldn't try and make it more uncomfortable for him.

saleorbouy · 04/02/2022 12:41

I'd be more bothered that he's taking these to supplement a so called healthy gym lifestyle. Every drug has side effects and if they're not necessary for medical reasons and only recreational reasons that surely is not god in the long term.

HoppingPavlova · 04/02/2022 12:43

However when I googled viagra dose for the gym it said should take about 5mg as a pre-workout.

WhatConfused? No idea what you googled but there is no dose for gym workouts. That’s not what it is for and I’d be highly interested in who is coming up with random doses for unauthorised uses as it can’t be any licensed medical professional.

What’s he taking beta-blockers for? Why is he ordering beta-blockers? If he has an issue where he requires them he would be prescribed and monitored by a Dr and would get them from a chemist, they would not be rocking up in the post together with what is likely a fake ViagraHmm.

MMmomDD · 04/02/2022 12:47

Men’s erections are a sensitive subject for them. If he hasn’t mentioned anything - he is clearly feeling embarrassed.
If you want to make him feel more unsure and anxious about it - then confront him.
But - not sure why you’d need to.

If his other meds are messing with his performance, or if he has issues with anxiety - he is clearly managing it well. Let him?

Itsalmostanaccessory · 04/02/2022 12:51

Is he ordering beta blockers in some dodgy way? I dont believe his GP would have prescribed them for the gym.

I think the bigger issue is him accessing drugs in an illegal and dangerous way.

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Haribo12345678910 · 04/02/2022 13:49

Thank you all for your replies. He takes propranolol (a beta blocker) for anxiety which can cause ER. The propranolol he got from his mum and the Viagra, he ordered online.

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Itsalmostanaccessory · 04/02/2022 13:53

How is getting a drug from his mum? Is he taking it under supervision of his GP?

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Haribo12345678910 · 04/02/2022 13:55

His mum is prescribed the beta blockers for a heart condition but he is taking them as and when he feels like he needs it

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LouLou198 · 04/02/2022 13:57

I would be more worried about him taking beta blockers that aren't prescribed for him.

Aquamarine1029 · 04/02/2022 13:59

The propranolol he got from his mum

Come again? 🤔

He's getting drugs from his mother? I'd be very concerned about this dodgy pill taking.

Itsalmostanaccessory · 04/02/2022 14:01

He cant do that. If something happens to him, no one is going to know he has been taking beta blockers. It wont be on any record. He could end up in big trouble if he gets ill and they dont know.

PartyPlan · 04/02/2022 14:01

Beta blockers aren’t to be messed around with. They slow down the heart rate and suppress adrenaline. I would be more worried about those than the viagra. Can you suggest a visit to the GP to get his own medication?

Lampan · 04/02/2022 14:02

My first thought is that he needs the viagra to counteract the side effects of another drug; be it legal/illegal/steroids etc

But more importantly he absolutely shouldn’t be taking ANYTHING that hasn’t been prescribed for him. Did him mum get them prescribed? Why isn’t she taking them if they are for her?

Sunshineandflipflops · 04/02/2022 14:04

My partner takes propanolol and it is prescribed and monitored by a GP. You should never take someone else's medication - what's safe for one person might not be for another!

No idea about the viagra but I would say as his partner it's really important to know what medication he is taking in case anything happens to him. One of the first questions you would be asked is "is he on any medication".

Allsorts1 · 04/02/2022 14:05

He should really just talk to his GP, they prescribe beta blockers all the time so it’s not like they would say no? Then at least he would be monitored for any checks they need to do to ensure it’s safe for regular use? My GP prescribed me beta blockers over the phone but that’s for public speaking so I just have one every few weeks or so - it might be a different risk profile if it’s daily use.

He’s obviously just taking the viagra for ED and I don’t see why he should have to tell you and I can see why he wouldn’t want to, he wants to maintain his sexy allure and pretend his erections are 100% unsupported by medication! My DH doesn’t know that I need to wax my butthole! We are allowed to keep intimate things from our partners sometimes, it’s “none of your business” as they say.

But he should be talking to a doctor about both things and making sure he’s safe!

Maybe just focus on getting him to get his own prescription for beta blockers and hope that he can chat to the doctor frankly about any side effects.

FawnFrenchieMum · 04/02/2022 14:07

Wow. I was about to say, I get all my medication delivered by post from pharmacy4u, nothing doggy about it. Order it from my GP and it arrives in the post. Then I read the updates. I think you have a bigger problem then viagra. He needs to stop taking other peoples drugs, see a GP and stop drug taking to build himself up.

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Haribo12345678910 · 04/02/2022 14:11

I have said to him about this before and he got defensive. I’ve said to him, it’s his body, his choice but as long as he is clear with me about what he is taking so I can tell medical professionals if something were to happen

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Kiitos · 04/02/2022 14:15

I think his body his choice only really goes so far unless he has studied pharmacy or medicine. There could be dangerous interactions between the drugs he takes. Could he be taking steroids too? If he is willing to gamble with unprescribed drugs I would be concerned there might be other things in the mix.

TallulahHula · 04/02/2022 14:16

Really silly of him to be taking other peoples medication without it being prescribed or on his medical records. Could be very dangerous.

The viagra isn't a big deal. My dh takes it. It's probably just something he feels embarrassed about.

username1293948 · 04/02/2022 14:17

Why would you need to “confront” him? He’s not doing anything wrong even if he is taking it. Don’t embarrass him and tread carefully with how you broach this

Aquamarine1029 · 04/02/2022 14:18

Yes, it's his body, but his decisions affect you, too, and your children/future children. When you're married, you no longer have the luxury of living in a self-absorbed bubble. I'd be extremely concerned about this drug use and the possible health implications. He could be headed for a heart attack if he's using them for muscle gain. I'd also be wondering what else he's using that you don't know about.

Opentooffers · 04/02/2022 14:21

The big problem here is that he's taking propanol that is not prescribed for him, which is leading him to take another drug - viagra- also not prescribed. He is going down a snowballing path of self-medication here. Instead of addressing the original issue - anxiety- he is papering over cracks. This could well affect his long term health, he's very young to be developing a polypharmacy lifestyle. Also, if he's taking steroids that's an even bigger issue as that can cause major cardiac problems.

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