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Sex with my husband

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StrangerThings85 · 04/02/2022 08:56

Hello,

I'm in a bit of a situation with my husband that I want to resolve but I need some advice. We had our first baby 19 months ago, he's a dream baby but I suffered PND and am experiencing some health issues. I'm back at work now and feeling much better now. Our sex life was great before the baby, then dwindled a bit and now we have the baby I'm just too exhausted. It's gotten to the point that my husband is so fed up that he goes in a right huff with me about it. He wants to have sex quite a lot but the way I'm feeling is just the opposite. I've had health issues and self esteem issues too. His way of telling me he's in the mood is by groping me, this never used to bother me but since having a baby it just annoys me. I think it's because I feel my body isn't my own anymore. My baby just wants to be carried all day and I'm just knackered. I feel like all of the romance has been zapped from my relationship, we cuddle a lot but we don't kiss like we used to. I just don't know what to do. I absolutely love him to bits and want to resolve it but I don't know how. We're in a vicious cycle of everything being great once we have sex but then tension between us when we haven't. Any advice would be great, thanks.

OP posts:
frescotitian · 04/02/2022 09:01

The groping is very annoying and will eventually give you the ick about him. You must tell him ASAP that you are finding the groping a turn-off. Could you ask him for a massage which then might make you more relaxed and more inclined to have sex?
Of course you're going to be exhausted with having a young child. You want some romance back in your life, to be wooed and to feel loved. He needs to understand that. You're not just a piece of meat.

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