So deflated. Please someone talk to me.

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I feel so deflated and down.

On the face of it I have a great life. A gorgeous 1 year old, a nice home, work part time etc..

But in reality I feel so low about my marriage.

My husband appreciates nothing I do. He was all for me working part time and looking after our son at first but not he loves to remind me how I don't benefit our family at all, every argument we have comes back to the fact I don't "do anything", I can never disagree with anything he does because he just throws this in my face all the time even if it's irrelevant to what we argue about. We have lots of times, most of the time in fact, where we get on and he's kind but there is always an undercurrent of me "having the life of Riley, never contributing etc..".

We tried so long and went through so much to have our son. I'll never be able to have another child. And part of me feels like just putting up with this so I can still be with him at home. I'd be heartbroken to work all the time (my old job which I would have to go back to was very full on and long commute). Every time we argue my husband threatens to ring the nursery and ask for DS to go on full time hours.

I don't have to worry about money (whilst married), I can spend time with my son. But I feel so useless, my contribution to anything is not recognised and it just makes me feel worthless.

How can I put up with this? I so don't want to miss out on this time with my son. It's the only thing that stops me from leaving.

My family paid our deposit for our house too, it was my early inheritance and I stupidly never did anything to protect it. I feel like he'd get everything and I'd be back at square one.

How do I just put up with this for DC?

Check and see if you've got a legal advice line included with your house insurance, OP. If so, give them a call.
Suzanne - desertion doesn't come into it.

OP,

Please take legal advice as soon as possible.

One thing that stuck out is that your H keeps threatening to put your DC in nursery full time but you say you can’t afford it. Do you think he could be concealing income from you? Just a thought and I hope it is wrong

The man is bullying you. One way or another you deserve better. Knowledge is power.

Tell him you are just going for a week, he can't stop you returning as it's your house. Hopefully, when you've had time to think, you might come to the conclusion that the best option is to ask him to move out.
How is the home dynamic in other ways? I doubt this has come out of the blue. When you both worked FT, did he do an equal amount of housework? Does he cook, clean, do the necessary? Let's say you went back full time, would he be picking up/ dropping off your DC an equal amount at nursery, cooking half the time, doing half housework and admin? If the answer is no to any of this, who's more useless?
As you are married and you are clearly the main carer, you should come away with a larger chunk of the assets, so try not to worry too much on that score. Was there really no hint before DC that he would harbour this opinion? If he's done a total turnabout, I'd smell a rat, there could be someone else fuelling a sudden change.

Poison his dinner

Just saw this. Sounds like a lot of the things he's doing to you.

www.portsmouth.co.uk/news/crime/9-things-it-is-illegal-for-your-partner-to-do-in-a-relationship-3556609?fbclid=iwar2am6kpalorbtbfqg0vbvrszxoirvblknqdigzszthped_eqkpmbqbv7bs