Would you be ok with this?

[plymouth80]

You have X body type, DH follows only Y body type on social media, the complete opposite of you.

Also likes lots of pictures, follows hundreds of these accounts.

Would you be ok? Is it innocent looking?

Or would you be upset/worried?

It is not about the 'body type', it is about the fact that your partner spends so much time looking at and liking pictures of other women...this is disrespectful to you and rather pervy.

I can't imagine any situation where my partner would be following or liking hundreds of random SM accounts of any body type and I'd be OK with it. It's so disrespectful. My bar is set much higher. Ignore anyone who says you're being controlling or insecure if you raise any objections. You have standards that's all.

I'd be worried that I seem to be making my husbands bad behaviour 'me' issue.

It has nothing to do with body type.
Do you think if you looked like y, your husband would magically stop being a sleaze? Cause he wouldn't!

It sounds like you've fir some reason jumped to 'I not good enough'. Why? What has made tour self esteem so low? Oh, is it maybe because your husband, who should be making you feel loved and reassured and safe as who you are, is instead, indulging in behaviours that would make any wife feel the exact opposite of this?

The only problem with you is that you are with a man who does shit like this and unstead of recognising he is shit, are somehow blaming yourself!

Your body shape is irrelevant.
Your husband is a creep.

God, that is so very true. I think it's those horrible labels us women get tarnished with, jealous, crazy, etc that jump to mind. As ultimately, I wouldn't know if I didn't go out of my way to see who he was following?

I think a lot of us have internalised mysoginy in some instances. We somehow jump to 'have I done something to cause this...'. Which is ridiculous. Why don't we afford men the same responsibility for their bad behaviour/mistakes? Why would it be our fault if THEY are not capable of basic human respect, decency, kindness and empathy.

We should others to the same moral standards that we hold ourselves to.

Oh and, if the man calls you crazy for doing so - he isn't a keeper. He is a prick with low moral fibre who wants you to thibk you are not deserving of respect.

Unfortunately there is a lot if mysoginy in the world as a whole. This idea that women are supposed to put up and shut up. But no, we dont have to do that. If someone treats us badly, we have every right to call them on it. If they don't appologise and change their ways, then we need to respect ourselves and leave. Because the only thing that would be crazy, is staying with someone who is intent on making us out to be.

I'm not a "cool" wife by a long shot before someone accuses me of it, but this doesn't bother me.
Dh is a PT, he follows and likes a number of fitness models, he actually follows their profiles for his female clients, as he is not a woman, he uses their workouts and meal plans to incorporate into his clients, so they are more specific than a general cookie cutter plan.

I train in the gym with him, but I'll never have that physique, I have no desire for it, so the women he likes and follows are nothing like me, but their images and videos help him, help other women achieve what they want.

I wouldn't be wild about a man who followed accounts of women just because they are women. Seems very sleazy. Different if it's an interest or hobby and the accounts happen to be women.

@Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese

I'm not a "cool" wife by a long shot before someone accuses me of it, but this doesn't bother me. Dh is a PT, he follows and likes a number of fitness models, he actually follows their profiles for his female clients, as he is not a woman, he uses their workouts and meal plans to incorporate into his clients, so they are more specific than a general cookie cutter plan.

I train in the gym with him, but I'll never have that physique, I have no desire for it, so the women he likes and follows are nothing like me, but their images and videos help him, help other women achieve what they want.

See that is all justified and makes sense why he follows them, I also wouldn't find that an issue in that instance

@changewwible

Hahaha good point! (Also please don't unfollow him 😍)

See he follows well known famous beautiful celebs, which to me is fine and lots of people do. It's more the smaller accounts, the real women I take issue with, as well as the sheer volume!

I wouldn't put up with a partner like that, if there're liking and following lots different women on social media, and he can't be annoyed that you're looking at what he's doing when it's all out there in the open for all to see so don't let him say you're crazy just because you won't put up with it. He's a creep, I wouldn't trust men like that either.

I have a account on IG do heavy wrighting with photos some sexy but in a positive way not cheesy. Shocks Mr how many men just follow sexy womens account. I stop them following me when it's obvious I like to be respected not just another sexy women. But I would like it if my husband was like them. Even he agrees it's a bit weird to just follow sexy women how do they have the time and don't the want more intelligence or more sexiness so might as well watch a bit of porn instead. But having the account has made me realise these men like the feel we are friends. I've made so friends on there that I have go chats with not just end up sexy. Block me that big up their relationships but try it on with myself.

Sounds like a wank bank?

I wouldn’t feel confident and it would make me think he’s sleazy.

Following hundreds of accounts and liking lots of pictures makes it sound as if your DH is a simp.