Friendship AIBU

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Background

I have a best friend who I will call Emma. Emma and I have known each other since our children were babies. Our DDs are also very close. When my daughter started school (a different school to friend) I made lots of new mum friends, who are quite a sociable group. I quickly introduced Emma to them and they all got on well, and tried to be inclusive and invited her along when we went for coffees, night outs etc. If we were all going to the beach, I would often extend the invite to friend and her DD is well known by all of the children in the group.

However, I haven't been introduced to any of her new friends. I find it strange that someone would so willingly accept invitations and without any intention of reciprocating. I do feel a bit hurt by this.
AIBU?

YABU some people prefer to keep their friendship circles separate, some like to mix. Neither is wrong. And nobody forced you to invite her to things. If you don't like the fact that she doesn't invite you back, then stop inviting her to things.. Or just casually say next time she mentions doing something with other friends "oh your friend sound like so much fun, would love to meet them sometime. If she doesn't invite u after that then u wil know where u sta d

Yabu.

I have a friend who loves mixing her friends and having a larger group to socialise with. So always invites me and others to everything she organises. I prefer keeping my groups separate. The faff of introducing people, posse fall outs, co-ordinating things etc, i cba. I'd only do it for friends who are don't have many friends or seem lonely or if theres a specific hobby they share in common.

Of course I'll attend stuff she invites me to, but am not expected to reciprocate.

I personally don't like mixing friendship dynamics. I have separate groups of friends that I socialised with.

The different groups have different interests/history/jokes etc.

I don't think your friend is BU.

I genuinely don’t understand why people need to make friendships such hard work. “I’ve introduced her to my friends but haven’t met any of her friends” sounds way to intense, almost the kind of thing you’d say about a relationship, alternatively it’s the stuff of the playground.

Seriously it doesn’t need to be this hard. Are you friends? Yes? Does the friendship work for you? Yes? Then there isn’t a problem and you need to get a grip.

YABU. Maybe her new mum friends, if she's made any - and many don't, aren't a sociable bunch. It's more unusual for you to bring a random friend and their DC into a group that's specifically from one school. If everyone did that, it would get unmanageable. Fill your own life or be happy with the very nice-sounding situation you've got, don't go looking for imagined lacks and expect her to fill them.