I need a white lie to see if they'll keep a secret

[Louisewilliams94]

I want to say something gossip worthy to see if they'll keep it a secret, before revealing my bigger secret but I'm really stumped what to tell them. Can you help me please ?

Bit like tyrion, in game of thrones, when figuring out who would tell the queen, his plan's

why not, at university you was recruited to do x duties for British intelligence or the cia, nsa ect ?

@Hawkins001

why not, at university you was recruited to do x duties for British intelligence or the cia, nsa ect ?

How is "I was a secret agent" a white lie? It's batshit.

I think the pole dancing story should end with sleeping with the whole team as apposed to needing first aid. Much more juicy.

On a more serious note if I didn't already trust someone I wouldn't be considering telling them anything that was an important secret for me.

If a secret's important never tell anyone. Most people have someone else they trust and would share it with, and on it goes like a chain. Also loyalties change with circumstances.

Alternatively, stop playing games and hang out with trustworthy grown-ups.

Don’t tell at all.

As soon as you tell anyone, a secret is no longer a secret. You have shared it. You have to be prepared that even someone trusted could chat to someone else and even anonymise the situation but it’s still being shared and circulated. If it’s that important to remain secret, don’t tell anyone. It’s that simple.

Any relationship that needs this type of game playing isn't worth it. Unless as PPs pointed out you're under 12 in which case it still isn't worth it but your game-playing drama tendencies are more understandable.

You won the lottery.

If everyone starts being really nice to you, they can't keep a secret.

Not exactly trust worthy yourself if you are looking for a lie to tell these people to “test” them. I’d be furious if you pulled some bullshit like this on me.

I kind of get where you are coming from. You have something to share with someone but its a huge deal and you need to be 100% sure they are not a gossip.

Nothing wrong in being sure.

What you say depends on who the person is you are telling it to. If a BF for example, he probably wouldn't want people knowing you were a pole dancer so wouldn't spread that. Also if you lied about something that made you look really good, he may divulge that because hes proud of you. Can you give us more context as to who the person is?

OK,so you "test" this person by telling them a small lie.

They can only pass your test by not repeating this lie to anyone else - obviously you ask them not to repeat it.

They ignore you and repeat the lie to someone else (telling them that it is in confidence and must not be repeated). This third person respects the fact that they have been told something in confidence and never repeats it to anyone.

How would you find out that the lie was repeated in the first place?

Different angle from me.
Tell the person a filthy joke.
Wait and see which of your friends tells you the same joke in the near future.

@2catsandhappy

Different angle from me. Tell the person a filthy joke. Wait and see which of your friends tells you the same joke in the near future.

Surely that just tells you whether they found your joke funny?

Tell them you've won £1m on the Euromillions raffle numbers, and that you're looking to buy somewhere else to live.