why does sex seem physically impossible?

[helenpurvis]

Bit intimate this but does anyone have any insight into why it might feel like there are walls inside me stopping me having sex? Occasionally I also have perineal pain when I'm carrying my 4 month old baby son (he's quite heavy!)

I'm just guessing but prolapse?

Have you had a feel down there yourself to see if there are any physical changes that might be causing this feeling? I know that my internal geography has definitely changed post partum. Re the perineal pain - did you have an episiotomy or any stitches? Maybe ask the nurse at your GP surgery to take a look for both matters?

I too had the same feeling for about 6 months after birth. My case was from a horrific birth - emergency with 2 midwives pushing above baby and my hips being dislocated (thats another story!!!).

I felt perineal pain when carrying ds for a long time - I was told its because of the strain on the pelvic floor muscles and to do the exercises. This helped alot. I didn't have an episiotomy, just grazes (amazingly!!!).

Get your Gyno to give you an internal - just to make sure everything is ok & there is no prolapse... you may need a ultrasound as well.

It can take up to 1 year for your body to return to normal state after birth... I still have aches and ds is now 14 mths old.

Thanks for all the advice. Will have a feel around. I was checked at 6 weeks and given the thumbs up. Baby's birth was actually quite straightfoward if quick - he was born at home so no intervention in any way shape or form. Maybe the speed at which it all happened has something to do with it. My first thoughts were that it would be an anxiety or stress thing but I now think otherwise.