Please offer some advice before I do something stupid and break up with boyfriend after miscarriage.

[Justnotme1]

It was only Monday and I was only about 5 weeks pregnant.

It’s hit me really hard and I just feel like letting my boyfriend go and I don’t know why. He is wonderful, he was nothing but supportive, he hasn’t done a single thing wrong.

This is my first relationship after abuse, we have been together about 1.5 years. The pregnancy was unplanned and I was shocked given my age of almost 39. He is younger at 32. I have a daughter who is 5 and he has none.

I have a lot of grief and pain in my past as has anyone who has suffered abuse, mine was 10 years and finally a nervous breakdown led me to leave. I also lost my dad during this time it was such a painful time.

Anyway…the problem is I am scared now. Now this has given me more pain, more grief to process. I don’t think I can take anymore. He will eventually leave me as does everything it seems in my life. He will want children, most people do. He is wonderful and I don’t think I could cope with that so perhaps if I let him go now it would be easier?

Perhaps this is grief talking, I don’t know but life just for me seems to be all about loosing things I care about, or just loosing things I don’t like my ex. I don’t seem to have any control.

The pregnancy was unplanned and I was shocked given my age of almost 39.

90% of women ttc under 40 fall pregnant within 2 yrs.
It sounds like you've been brain washed by the (inaccurate) 35 fertility cliff thing.

Also he's younger so that raises your chances too.

There's no reason you can't have kids with him in the bear future if you both want them. Your chances will begin to fall from 40, but particularly from 42.

Entirely depends on woman as well, it varies a lot.

If he's a decent partner, don't end it with him. Don't project previous experiences/relationships onto him.

If he does want kids, it would need to ve sooner rather than later, you can discuss it with him.

Miscarriages are also very common.

And not just at 38, I know several younger women who've had them. And all the women I know who've had them have had full-term.pregnancies afterward.