Does it get better?

[bluebear19]

We have a 10m old DS who is the light of our lives. But my DH and I are just at each other's throats constantly. Does it get better?

DS is a terrible sleeper, breastfed baby who still wakes anywhere between twice to six times a night. He's in bed with me most nights and DH goes to the spare bedroom.

DH has a stressful job and works long hours. Also, lots of driving so he's exhausted (as am I). I think this is the reason we are constantly niggling.

I feel like in having a baby, we've lost our connection. Our sex life is on pause... I'm not in the mood at all, exhausted and still breastfeeding around the clock... I just am not interested. DH is totally understanding but I am concerned for us long term.

We haven't had any time just the two of us since our son has been born... maybe this is the issue.

I'm putting our niggling down to tiredness and life with a young baby but I am looking for reassurance that it will get better... and any tips to stop us biting at each other constantly :-(

Anyone around?

10 months breastfeeding is hard work, I made it to 12 months then on to cows milk. I did sleep training at 6 months as I was just too exhausted and put my baby in her own room. It's was stressful at first but it ment we had more time to share as a couple and back in our bed together. Tbh it does get harder as they get older for different reasons, think we are just both to knackered now to argue 🤣

Yes it does... but there I found that there is a certain amount of ' fake it till you make it' ... sex is the glue that makes the difference between house share mates and lovers..

Just look on here at the sheer amount of men having affairs when babies arrive.. is it right ? Hell no... but that's no use once it's happened. I absolutely don't want to have sex but once I did it it was fine and the result was a happier DH and best of all a much greater closeness...
The last left for Uni in September... and we are at it like Rabbits... could all have been so different if I hadn't been given this advice by an older friend..

It gets better, honestly.

I have three children, we experienced what you are describing 3 times and we are still together and very much in love and our youngest is now 10. You are getting through the hardest times. Ironically for us the more kids we had the more we felt like we were in the trenches together and the closer we got.